MEET DR. CRAIG MALKIN

Dr. Malkin brings 20 years of experience to his work helping couples, individuals, and families overcome a range of emotional concerns and move beyond their current struggles to live richer, fuller lives. His unique, practical approach to helping people break out of painful romantic patterns combines an in depth knowledge of the science of attraction with a broad, interdisciplinary understanding of what makes relationships work.

MEET DR. MALKIN

No single approach works with everyone. Good therapy is as much art as science, and any advice or insights I have to offer can only succeed if they fit well within your present life. I’m a big believer in supporting people where they are, so I spend a lot of time exploring your strengths, to see if we can use them to help you move forward. Change rarely involves a complete overhaul in how you live your life. Our most powerful moments of personal growth generally strike a healthy balance between accepting things as they are and striving to make them better.

You can probably also tell from glancing at my site that I place relationships front and center in my thinking. That’s because the research on psychological change and growth—including studies on self-esteem, depression, anxiety, loss, and a host of other concerns—have pointed again and again to the importance of the people around us, in either helping us move forward or holding us back. It isn’t enough to want to change; you also need an environment that supports your efforts, including people who can appreciate your attempts to grow. What I’ve learned through my training, research, and practice, is that the process of overcoming any number of problems often involves changes in how we interact.

 

I also believe in an unconscious mind; the evidence is overwhelming at this point that we often perform a range of behaviors without always knowing precisely why. If I think an unconscious habit is causing you trouble, I’ll help you use that insight to keep yourself moving forward. The notion of an unconscious mind is currently embraced by just about every psychological perspective (people mainly disagree about what’s in it); in my case, I’m strongly influenced by a school of thought called relational psychoanalysis, which holds that many of our habits—helpful or unhelpful—stem from a healthy desire to feel like whole, genuine people while still maintaining intimacy with the people we care about. This doesn’t mean the past determines us. If anything, these newer ideas about the unconscious place greater emphasis on how we maintain our problems through our present behavior.Having said all this, I should add that I’m also heavily influenced by research on what works. If a technique is known to be particularly effective with anxiety, I’ll use it to help you. For that reason my approach is often called integrationist: I’ve been trained in a range of techniques and schools of thought, and in any given session I might be drawing on several in an attempt to help you. My clients are used to hearing me refer to one study or another in the course of our conversations. I love reading about what works, and I love sharing it. I think it makes me a better psychologist and a better writer.~ Dr. Craig Malkin

PROFESSIONAL BIO

Dr. Craig Malkin is Lecturer in Psychology for Harvard Medical School and licensed psychologist with over two decades of experience in helping couples, individuals, and families. His research on the role of relationships in psychological growth has been published in peer-reviewed journals, and PsychologyToday.com has called his blog Romance Redux “an essential read.” He is also a frequent contributor to Huffington Post.After teaching in local universities, Dr. Malkin became a Psychology Instructor at Harvard Medical School’s Cambridge Hospital, in Cambridge Massachusetts, where he taught interns, residents, and fellows the theory and practice of psychotherapy. In 2003, he left this position to expand his private practice and continued to supervise and teach for Harvard Medical School’s training program.Dr. Malkin’s advice and insights on a wide range of topics within his areas of expertise have been featured in major national and international on-line and print media magazines and newspapers, including Match.com’s Happen Magazine, Marie Claire, and Women’s Health, as well as popular TV and radio news shows. He continues to practice full time in Harvard Square, in Cambridge Massachusetts, and serves as president and director of his own therapy and consulting company, YM Psychotherapy and Consultation, Inc., which he owns and operates with his wife, Dr. Jennifer Leigh.

EDUCATION

PhD, Clinical Psychology – University of Missouri
Internship, Harvard Medical School (Massachusetts Mental Health Center)
Post-doc, Harvard University Mental Health Services

CLINICAL EXPERIENCE

Full CV available upon request.

RETHINKING NARCISSISM

WELCOME! I’M DELIGHTED TO ANNOUNCE THAT MY NEW BOOK, RETHINKING NARCISSISM: THE SECRET TO RECOGNIZING AND COPING WITH NARCISSISTS, (HARPERCOLLINS, 2015) IS AVAILABLE TO BUY ONLINE AND IN BOOK STORES NOW.

The internationally acclaimed book named Amazon's Book of the Month, Daily Mail's Book of the Week, featured on The Oprah Winfrey Network, in the New York Times, the cover story in Psychology Today, and selected as The Millions "most anticipated book of the year".

“Is there someone in your life who's hurting you and you just don't know it? In this Harvard researcher's illuminating—reads-like-a-novel—book, he reveals how to identify and repair your relationships to live with more fulfillment.” Oprah’s Book Club 2.0

When most of us hear the word narcissism or narcissist, we envision vain, preening, braggarts who can’t stop talking about themselves. But most of the time, we’ve got it wrong; many narcissists aren’t driven by looks, fame, or money—some may even be shy or soft-spoken. The startling truth is we’ve been distracted by an empty stereotype that blinds us to far more reliable signs of danger—and an entire generation is suffering because of it.In Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin—a Harvard Medical School Instructor and clinical psychologist with more than two decades of experience—offers a radically new model for understanding this often misused term. Narcissism, argues Dr. Malkin, is essentially a spectrum of self-importance— and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance. When we casually invoke the term “narcissist,” most of us are referring to the shadowy outer edge of the spectrum, which can shade into dangerous psychopathy. Yet there are also those who live at the lower end of the spectrum—dubbed “echoists” by Dr. Malkin. These, too, are people we know; people so fearful of attention or acknowledgment that they often seem to have no voice at all.

Drawing on his own research, as well as the latest findings in psychology, Dr. Malkin uses vivid stories of people from all walks of life to teach concrete strategies for spotting--and coping with--excessive narcissism. At the same time, he explains why embracing some degree of narcissism—the drive to feel special— is essential to maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth. Using his new tool, the Narcissism Test, he not only guides readers through the process of measuring their narcissism, but also offers step-by-step advice to prevent unhealthy narcissism—and nurture healthy narcissism— in ourselves, as well as our partners, our colleagues, our friends, and especially our children.

As practical as it is wise, Rethinking Narcissism doesn’t just help people avoid the temptations and dangers of extreme narcissism—and narcissists—in both the real world and cyberspace; it helps everyone, including people who don’t feel special enough, find their voices and live more passionate, fulfilling lives.Rethinking Narcissism has enjoyed international expert and critical acclaim for its exciting blend of empirical rigor, down to earth, practical strategies, and compelling story telling. In it you’ll discover:

  • A novel, research-derived test, which measures both healthy narcissism and subtler forms of unhealthy narcissism.

  • A new way of understanding—and breaking—our attraction to narcissists: *Echoism*. You'll learn what it is, and how to cope with it.

  • The 3 varieties of narcissists: introverted, extroverted, and communal and what they all have in common

  • 5 ways to quickly recognize even the subtlest narcissists.

  • A 2-part, research-informed approach to determining, in three weeks or less, if you should stay or go

  • 8 evidence-based parenting strategies for preventing unhealthy narcissism in children

  • 6 empirically-informed approaches for coping with unhealthy narcissism at work.

  • SoWe: 5 research grounded, concrete rules for healthy social media use.

Order your copy today to learn practical tips on how to cope with and understand narcissism, whether you see it in your friends, lovers, family members—or yourself.

INSIGHTS INTO RETHINKING NARCISSISM

 

THE NEW YORK TIMES

"Malkin, a therapist and psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School, takes a more inspirational attitude..."

THE INDEPENDENT

"[A] fascinating book."

DAILY MAIL

Rethinking Narcissism was named by The Daily Mail as Book of the Week 

"A gripping and sometimes terrifying book that will make you look anew at your spouse, your parents, your children, your friends, your enemies, your fellow workers and - perhaps most pertinently - your reflection in the mirror. And if your reflection pleases you far more than any of the others, you probably won't like what you read."

OPRAH'S BOOK CLUB 2.0

"The book that protects you from narcissists.”

PSYCH CENTRAL

"Among all the books that have been published on the topic in the past 10 years, Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret To Recognizing And Coping With Narcissists stands out as a definite must-read." 

THE MILLIONS

Rethinking Narcissism was chosen by The Millions as one of the most anticipated books of 2015

TODD KASHDAN, PhD

"Certainly one of the best books I've read this year. Don't be fooled by the title.. this book is for anyone trying to better understand themselves and other people." - Todd Kashdan, PhD, Professor of Psychology, George Mason Universityauthor of The Upside of Your Dark Side

LIBRARY JOURNAL

"This is a true gem on the subject of narcissism.”

KIRKUS REVIEW

"[Dr. Malkin’s] reassuring tone and plethora of case histories offer considered advice and generous encouragement.”

PUBLISHERS WEEKLY

"...a book that will have readers rethinking themselves and, paradoxically, those around them.”

BOOKTRIB

"Thank you, Dr. Malkin, for saying what needed to be said and clearing things up for me. For all of us."

GRETCHEN RUBIN

“Dr. Malkin offers a surprising, accessible analysis of narcissism.” - Gretchen Rubin, best selling author of Better than Before and The Happiness Project

Dr. Drew Pinksy

“[Dr. Malkin] shows us how to…manage relationships with narcissistic partners, friends, colleagues, and family.” - TV’s Dr. Drew Pinksy, author of The Mirror Effect

Dr. Sue Johnson

"…an enthralling book…it will become a classic.”  - Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight and Love Sense

Dr. Peggy Drexler

“…a book that’s persuasive. Insightful, and never dry.”  - Dr. Peggy Drexler, author of Raising Boys Without Men and Our Fathers. Ourselves

Leon F. Seltzer PhD

“If you’re to buy just one book on narcissism, this is the one to purchase.”  - Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, PhD., author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy

Peg Streep

“...gives us all a coherent way of talking about a much-discussed but often over-simplified and over-dramatized subject in these “look at me” times.”  - Peg Streep, bestselling author of Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt

Sunday Times Magazine

"Narcissists. They’re everywhere…Not according to Dr. Craig Malkin, whose new book suggests we’ve got it all wrong”

THE NARCISSISM TEST

This informal, brief version of the Narcissism Spectrum Scale (NSS), derived from Dr. Malkin's Narcissism Spectrum Model, offers you a rough sense of where you fall in the spectrum. Being too high and too low on the spectrum are both associated with problems. If you know where you fall, you can work on moving towards the healthy center of the spectrum, which comes with a host of benefits, including, greater self-confidence, a passion for life, and mutually caring relationships.The scale breaks down into three “factors.” Think of these like three large piles the items fall into mathematically. All three are related to narcissism (or the lack of it). But they predict dramatically different patterns of behavior. Each factor is also a rough indicator of different positions on the narcissism spectrum. After you take the test, you’ll receive your result and some tips based on your scores. Your results are strictly confidential.

ARE YOU READY? LET'S GO...

Tom Wootton

"Chock full of eminently practical advice on how to cope with the dangers of narcissism, in ourselves and others, Rethinking Narcissism brings much needed compassion and clarity to one of the most vexing problems in mental health without ever resorting to false hopes or naivete. In that way, the book itself is special.”—Tom Wootton, Huffington Post Blogger and author of The Bipolar Advantage

RED MAGAZINE

"Is there a narcissist in your life? Chances are, the answer’s yes—here’s how to spot them.”

JOSEPH SHAY PHD

"If you’re only going to read one book about narcissism this is it. It’s not only eminently accessible for the lay audience and professional alike, but it offers a profound analysis of the nature of narcissism and common misunderstandings about it. Add to this Dr. Malkin’s penetrating insights, his superb ability to tell a good story, and his courage in disclosing elements of his own story, and you wind up with this remarkable book.— Joseph Shay, PhD Lecturer Harvard Medical School, co-author of Psychodynamic Group Psychotherapy and co-editor of Odysseys in Psychotherapy and Complex Dilemmas in Group Therapy.

IRENE OESTRICH, CHEFSPSYKOLOG, PH.D.

"Craig Malkins book is another step in the direction of a broad and inclusive psychological understanding of human behaviour and a step away from prejudice and narrow concepts of the human mind.— from the book's foreword by Irene Oestrich, chefspsykolog, Ph.D.

 

THE NEW YORK TIMES

"Malkin, a therapist and psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School, takes a more inspirational attitude..."

THE INDEPENDENT

"[A] fascinating book."

DAILY MAIL

Rethinking Narcissism was named by The Daily Mail as Book of the Week 

"A gripping and sometimes terrifying book that will make you look anew at your spouse, your parents, your children, your friends, your enemies, your fellow workers and - perhaps most pertinently - your reflection in the mirror. And if your reflection pleases you far more than any of the others, you probably won't like what you read."

OPRAH'S BOOK CLUB 2.0

"The book that protects you from narcissists.”

PSYCH CENTRAL

"Among all the books that have been published on the topic in the past 10 years, Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret To Recognizing And Coping With Narcissists stands out as a definite must-read." 

THE MILLIONS

Rethinking Narcissism was chosen by The Millions as one of the most anticipated books of 2015

TODD KASHDAN, PhD

"Certainly one of the best books I've read this year. Don't be fooled by the title.. this book is for anyone trying to better understand themselves and other people." - Todd Kashdan, PhD, Professor of Psychology, George Mason Universityauthor of The Upside of Your Dark Side

LIBRARY JOURNAL

"This is a true gem on the subject of narcissism.”

KIRKUS REVIEW

"[Dr. Malkin’s] reassuring tone and plethora of case histories offer considered advice and generous encouragement.”

PUBLISHERS WEEKLY

"...a book that will have readers rethinking themselves and, paradoxically, those around them.”

BOOKTRIB

"Thank you, Dr. Malkin, for saying what needed to be said and clearing things up for me. For all of us."

GRETCHEN RUBIN

“Dr. Malkin offers a surprising, accessible analysis of narcissism.” - Gretchen Rubin, best selling author of Better than Before and The Happiness Project

Dr. Drew Pinksy

“[Dr. Malkin] shows us how to…manage relationships with narcissistic partners, friends, colleagues, and family.” - TV’s Dr. Drew Pinksy, author of The Mirror Effect

Dr. Sue Johnson

"…an enthralling book…it will become a classic.”  - Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight and Love Sense

Dr. Peggy Drexler

“…a book that’s persuasive. Insightful, and never dry.”  - Dr. Peggy Drexler, author of Raising Boys Without Men and Our Fathers. Ourselves

Leon F. Seltzer PhD

“If you’re to buy just one book on narcissism, this is the one to purchase.”  - Dr. Leon F. Seltzer, PhD., author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy

Peg Streep

“...gives us all a coherent way of talking about a much-discussed but often over-simplified and over-dramatized subject in these “look at me” times.”  - Peg Streep, bestselling author of Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt

Sunday Times Magazine

"Narcissists. They’re everywhere…Not according to Dr. Craig Malkin, whose new book suggests we’ve got it all wrong”

NEW ENGLAND PSYCHOLOGIST

"...will interest anyone who is intrigued about narcissism, what it means, where it comes from. ..[Dr. Malkin's] empiricist side shines through.— New England Psychologist.

INTERVIEWS & PRESS

Dr. Malkin On Video - 2016

Reading With Robin

Facebook Live Stream, 04-Nov-2016

Dr. Malkin had a terrific conversation with Robin about Rethinking Narcissism, where he described all the faces of pathological narcissism--not just the charismatic manipulator-- and how to cope.

ON VIDEO | 2015

Author explains 5 ways to spot a narcissist

WGNTV.com, 01-Oct-2015

How to Cope With Narcissistic Family Members (Part 3 of a 3 Part Series)

OWN Show, 13-Aug-2015

It's not always easy to spot a narcissist, but knowing who they are can save you from heartbreak. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, breaks down the hidden warning signs of a narcissist. Watch as he explains how they work—and how you can protect your own emotional health.Original broadcast on #OWNSHOW

How to Protect Yourself from Narcissists (Part 2 of a 3 Part Series)

OWN Show, 31-Jul-2015

It's not always easy to spot a narcissist, but knowing who they are can save you from heartbreak. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, breaks down the hidden warning signs of a narcissist. Watch as he explains how they work—and how you can protect your own emotional health.Original broadcast on #OWNSHOW

How to Spot the Hidden Narcissist in Your Life (Part 1 of a 3 Part Series)

OWN Show, 24-Jul-2015

It's not always easy to spot a narcissist, but knowing who they are can save you from heartbreak. Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, breaks down the hidden warning signs of a narcissist. Watch as he explains how they work—and how you can protect your own emotional health.Original broadcast on #OWNSHOW

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST?

Huffington Post Live, 05-Apr-2015

Narcissism is casually used as an exaggerated description for a person's self-involvement. But some people can be clinically defined as narcissists. So where does insult meet diagnosis?Original broadcast on Huffington Post

ON VIDEO | 2011

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

NECN, 14-Feb-2011

(NECN) - February 14th is Valentine's Day -- the day of love. But, after the flowers and chocolate, how can you keep the love going? And, how do you keep from stressing out over just one day? Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist, joins NECN for a discussion.

The Science Of Love

Fox Boston, 08-Feb-2011

(FOX 25 / MyFoxBoston.com) - Valentine's Day is right around the corner and for many it's financially stressful and emotional taxing on their relationships. But Dr. Craig Malkin from YM Psychotherapy and Consultation has some scientific tips to help make cupids favorite day fun and bring you closer to your partner. Dr. Malkin offers substantiated advice to help alleviate Valentine's angst and improve commitment.Original broadcast on Fox Boston

PRESS INQUIRIES

For interviews or press coverage please contact Amanda on [email protected]

OWN SHOW - HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NARCISSISTS

RADIO: INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

VIDEO: HUFFINGTON POST LIVE (INTERVIEW): HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST?

VIDEO: FOX BOSTON - THE SCIENCE OF LOVE

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH SPECIAL WBUR SERIES: DIGITAL LIVES

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH DAN REA

RADIO: BOSTON TALKS 96.9 VALENTINE'S DAY INTERVIEW

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH PATRICIA RASKIN - WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

INTERVIEWS & PRESS

Dr. Malkin Radio Shows - 2017

Dr. Craig Malkin On Narcissism and Trump

Healthcare Politics, 10-Jul-2017

A Little Narcissism Is Not a Bad Thing

BYU Radio, 15-Mar-2017

To call someone a narcissist is very much in vogue right now. Whole books have been written about Millennials and their obsession with selfies and hunger for approval. Many a pundit has lobbed the label as our new President, too. Anybody who’s overbearing or obnoxious or egocentric is liable to be called a narcissist.Click here to listen.

Dr. Craig Malkin Discusses Narcissism

Victory Chicks Radio with Annmarie Kelly, 08-Feb-2017

To call someone a narcissist is very much in vogue right now. Whole books have been written about Millennials and their obsession with selfies and hunger for approval. Many a pundit has lobbed the label as our new President, too. Anybody who’s overbearing or obnoxious or egocentric is liable to be called a narcissist.Click here to listen.

ON THE RADIO | 2016 LISTINGS

Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists

Going Solo Network, 01-Oct-2016

Click here to listen.

Rethinking Narcissism with Dr. Craig Malkin

Talk with Francesca, 24-Sep-2016

Life Lessons with Dr. Craig Malkin- Danger Signs of Narcissism

Life Lessons, 21-Jul-2016

Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin

Reading With Robin, 04-Jul-2016

Why We Still Think About Rodin’s ‘The Thinker,’ Now Sitting Pensively At The Peabody Essex

90.9 WBUR, 16-May-2016

WTOP Radio

WTOP Radio, 08-Feb-2016

ON THE RADIO | 2015 LISTINGS

NightSide – Rethinking Narcissism

CBS Boston, 18-Nov-2015

Dr. Craig Malkin, Rethinking Narcissism: The bad—and surprising good—about feeling special

Maryanne Live!, 03-Nov-2015

"What is Narcissism?" It like it's bad. Dr. Craig Malkin offers a radically new model for understanding that it's a spectrum of self-importance---and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance. Click here to listen.

Rethinking Narcissism The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special

Dr. Michael Harris, Blog Talk Radio, 16-Oct-2015

Click here to listen to the original broadcast.

Presidential Narcissism, Racial Bias, Growing up Social

Matt Townsend Show, 01-Oct-2015

Dr. Malkin outlines the dos and don’ts of picking our next leader by helping us understand the good and bad traits of narcissism. Click here to listen.

Could We All Benefit From Some Narcissism?

90.9 WBUR, 11-Sep-2015

NightSide – Is Narcissism Actually A Good Thing?

CBS Boston, 03-Sep-2015

Dr Craig Malkin - Rethinking Narcissism

WOCA The Source Radio, 20-Aug-2015

The Joy Cardin Show

Wisconsin Public Radio, 06-Aug-2015

IN DEFENSE OF SELFISHNESS & NARCISSISM: PETER SCHWARTZ, DR. CRAIG MALKIN

The Halli Casser Jayne Show, 05-Aug-2015

Rethinking Narcissism 2

Conversations Live with Vicki St. Clair, 03-Aug-2015

Dr. Craig Malkin Debuts Rethinking Narcissism

Life Lessons Network, 30-Jul-2015

Larry Conners USA

Larry Conners USA, 30-Jul-2015

The Ray Lytle Show

The Ray Lytle Show, 30-Jul-2015

The Jan Mickelson Show

The Jan Mickelson Show, 30-Jul-2015

Columbia Morning with David Lile

Columbia Morning with David Lile, 30-Jul-2015

Dave Akerly, AM Talk Radio

WILS­ 1320, 30-Jul-2015

Dan & Mike Morning Show

WBEX- AM, 30-Jul-2015

Original broadcast on WBEX

The Christal Frost Show

WTCM NewsTalk 580, 28-Jul-2015

Did you know that “what is narcissism” is one of the fastest-rising searches on Google? Dr. Craig Malkin offers a radically new model for understanding this often misused term. Listen to Dr. Malkin discuss the spectrum of narcissism- the bad and surprisingly good- about feeling special.Original broadcast at WTCM NewsTalk 580

INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

Passion Show, 16-Jul-2015

  • WTCM-AM/Grand Rapids - MILIVE w/Christal Frost

  • WBZ-AM/Boston MA- w/WBZ News, 50,000 watt AM/News Talk

  • WBEX-AM/FM Columbus OH - LIVE w/Dan & Mike Morning Show, AM/FM Talk

  • WILS-AM/Detroit MI - LIVE w/Dave Akerly, AM/Talk Radio 

  • WJBC-AM/FM Chicago IL - w/Steve Fast Show, AM/FM Talk Radio

  • WNEW-FM/Washington DC - w/Alvin Jones Show, AM/FM News Talk

  • KOA-AM/Denver CO - w/Colorado Morning News

  • KFRU-AM/St. Louis MO - LIVE w/David Lile, AM/News Talk

  • WICH-AM/Hartford CT - LIVE w/Old New England, AM/News Talk

  • WOCM-FM/Baltimore MD - w/Morning Show, FM Morning Show

  • WAMV-AM/Richmond VA - LIVE w/Morning Show, AM Talk Radio

  • KLPW-AM/St. Louis MO - LIVE w/Diane Jones Morning Show, AM Talk

  • WHO-AM Des Moines IA - LIVE w/Jan Mickelson Show

  • WASN-AM/Cleveland OH - LIVE w/Brainfood from the Heartland, AM Talk/itunes

  • KKNW-AM/FM Seattle WA - LIVE w/Conversations with Vicki

  • Lifestyle Radio Network - LIVE w/Frankie Boyer

  • CJOB-AM Manitoba Canada - w/Nighthawk

  • Life Lessons/national - w/Rick Tocquigny

  • KTTH-AM/Seattle WA - taped w/Ben Shapiro, AM/News Talk

  • WTAX-AM/Springfield-Peoria IL - LIVE w/Ray Lytle Show, AM/FM News Talk

  • KTRS-AM/St. Louis MO - w/Larry Conners USA, AM/News Talk

  • Halli Casser-Jayne Show - w/Halli Casser-Jayne Show

  • Wisconsin Public Radio - w/The Joy Cardin Show, NPR

  • KORN-AM/Sioux Falls SD - w/Clayton Mick

  • WTBQ-AM&FM/Poughkeepsie NY - w/Frank Truatt, AM News Talk

  • WIP-AM&FM Philadelphia PA - LIVE w/Peter Solomon, AM/FM Sunday Morning Talk

  • WBZ-AM/Boston MA - LIVE IN-STUDIO with Dan Rea Show

ON THE RADIO | 2013 LISTINGS

Facebook Envy: How The Social Network Affects Our Self-Esteem

90.9 wbur, Digital Lives Show, 20-Feb-2013

Original broadcast at wbur.org

ON THE RADIO | 2011 LISTINGS

VALENTINES DAY INTERVIEW ON BOSTON TALKS

96.9 fm Boston Talks, 14-Feb-2011

INTERVIEW WITH CRAIG MALKIN ON NIGHTSIDE WITH DAN REA

WBZ 1030 News Radio, 14-Feb-2011

ON THE RADIO | 2009 LISTINGS

WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

The Patricia Raskin Show, Voice America, 16-Mar-2009

Patricia welcomes Craig Malkin, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist who taught and trained at Harvard. Dr. Malkin’s research on the role of relationships in psychological growth in the classroom has been published in peer reviewed journals. He practices full time and serves as president and director of his own successful therapy and consulting company, YM Psychotherapy and Consultation Inc. He will discuss why we choose and stay in relationships that do not work and how we can change our patterns to find happy and fulfilling relationships.Original broadcast on Voice America

PRESS INQUIRIES

For interviews or press coverage please contact Amanda on [email protected]

OWN SHOW - HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NARCISSISTS

RADIO: INTERVIEW ON PASSION WITH DR. LAURIE BETITO

VIDEO: HUFFINGTON POST LIVE (INTERVIEW): HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST?

VIDEO: FOX BOSTON - THE SCIENCE OF LOVE

NECN (NEW ENGLAND CABLE NEWS)

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH SPECIAL WBUR SERIES: DIGITAL LIVES

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH DAN REA

RADIO: BOSTON TALKS 96.9 VALENTINE'S DAY INTERVIEW

RADIO: INTERVIEW WITH PATRICIA RASKIN - WHY WE CHOOSE AND STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK

INTERVIEWS & PRESS

DR. MALKIN QUOTED IN THE PRESS - 2019

ARE THEY A NARCISSIST OR JUST SELF-CONFIDENT? HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE

MindBodyGreen, 01-Dec-2019

Confidence is about knowing and appreciating your own qualities and worth, and that’s a good thing. Narcissism involves an exaggeration of and obsession with one’s qualities and worth. Read More.

HOW TO KNOW IF THE PERSON YOU'RE DATING IS A 'HEALTHY' VS 'UNHEALTHY' NARCISSIST

Your Tango, 12-Nov-2019

The word certainly conjures up a negative image! However, we all fall somewhere on the scale between pure selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.

SEEING THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR REARVIEW MIRROR: WHAT YOU MISSED

PsychCentral, 29-Oct-2019

When it comes to not taking responsibility, the brushstrokes are very broad and include, as Dr. Craig Malkin observed in his book Rethinking Narcissism, what he calls “emotional hot potato.” Read More.

3 TYPES OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 18-Oct-2019

The more extreme the narcissism (and the more disordered the narcissist) the more likely you are to see physical and emotional abuse,” Craig Malkin, Ph.D., lecturer at Harvard Medical School and author of “Rethinking Narcissism,”. Read More.

UNLOVED DAUGHTERS AND THE PROBLEM OF UNMET GOALS

Psychology Today, 17-Oct-2019

Dr. Malkin reminds us that narcissism is a spectrum—think of it as a line that stretches from left to right—and in the middle is healthy self-regard. Read More.

TOP 3 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO HELP A LOVED ONE WHO’S STUCK IN LIFE

Thrive Global, 15-Oct-2019

A personality disorder is a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions, hold onto a stable sense of self and identity, and maintain healthy relationships in work, friendship, and love. Read More.

THE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT WAY TO DEAL WITH 5 TYPES OF COWORKERS

Fast Company, 07-Oct-2019

Rather than stroke their ego or ignore them altogether, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin previously told Fast Company that a better way is to “catch” and acknowledge them when they display good behavior. Read More.

UNFIT FOR OFFICE

The Atlantic, 03-Oct-2019

“Pathological narcissism begins when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray, and even hurt those closest to them,” Malkin says. Read More.

NARCISSISM 101

Medium, 23-Sep-2019

Scientists don’t even know for sure what causes narcissistic tendencies. But it can be useful to think of narcissism as a spectrum, from absolute selflessness to total arrogance. Everyone is on it, argues Craig Malkin, a Harvard Medical School instructor and author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

ECHOISM: THE TRAIT YOU MIGHT RELATE TO IF YOU GREW UP WITH A 'NARCISSISTIC' PARENT

Yahoo! Lifestyle, 10-Sep-2019

Echoism is a trait of people who are skilled at echoing the needs and feelings of those around them — often at the expense of their own needs and feelings. Read More.

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU BE WITH YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU MOVE IN TOGETHER?

Newshub., 06-Sep-2019

Relationship expert Craig Malkin says the key to success is for both partners to show " an active and clear commitment before deciding to live together". Read More.

WHAT IS ECHOISM? A PSYCHOLOGIST TELLS US ABOUT HOW SOME PEOPLE REALLY HATE BEING PRAISED

Mic, 20-Aug-2019

Malkin and his colleagues have found that echoists tend to agree with statements such as “I'm afraid of becoming a burden,” and “When people ask me my preferences, I’m often at a loss.” While these traits might sound a lot like run-of-the-mill people-pleasing behavior or even humility, Malkin says there’s a big difference. Read More.

YOU AREN’T A NARCISSIST, BUT COULD YOU BE AN ECHOIST?

PsychCentral, 14-Aug-2019

Echoism is a fairly new term for a personality type that many of us might be familiar with — the people pleaser. In the recent years Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin has done work defining echoism and the traits associated with it. Read More.

WHEN SCAPEGOATING IS A WEAPON IN MOM OR DAD’S ARSENAL

PsychCentral, 13-Aug-2019

Scapegoating is a way of controlling the dynamics among and between family members and, not surprisingly, mothers (and fathers) who are high in control or narcissistic traits or are combative by nature use it. Read More.

VULNERABLE VS GRANDIOSE NARCISSISM: WHICH IS MORE HARMFUL?

Psychology Today, 23-Jun-2019

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in Rethinking Narcissism, vulnerable narcissists “are just as convinced that they’re better than others as any other narcissist, but they fear criticism so viscerally that they shy away from, and even seem panicked by, people and attention”. Read More.

ARE YOU AN ECHOIST? TAKE THIS QUIZ TO FIND OUT

Curiosity, 21-Jun-2019

Echoism is a trait, not a diagnosis, and while it's popped up here and there in papers over the last few decades, its big moment in the sun came with Dr. Craig Malkin's 2016 book, "Rethinking Narcissism." "... their defining characteristic is a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way," Malkin wrote. Read More.

SPOTTING THE NARCISSIST BY HOW HE TELLS (AND CURATES) HIS STORY

PsychCentral, 11-Jun-2019

Narcissists bury normal emotions like fear, sadness, loneliness, and shame because they’re afraid they’ll be rejected for having them; the greater their fear, the more they shield themselves with the belief that they’re special. Read More.

6 WAYS THE NARCISSIST TAKES CONTROL OF A RELATIONSHIP

PsychCentral, 05-Jun-2019

The women who are more likely to swept in by the narcissist’s charms past the initial meeting are those whose emotional needs weren’t met in childhood, and whose mother or father or both were unloving, narcissistic, combative, withholding, or hypercritical. These women typically have low self-esteem, especially if their mothers were high in narcissistic traits; the chances are good that rather than be criticized or scapegoated by their mothers, they learned to duck under the radar and draw as little attention to themselves as possible. In his book, Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin calls these daughters “echoists,” pointing out that they actually lack healthy narcissism. Read More.

LISTENING TO ECHOISM

Psychology Today, 07-May-2019

You won't find echoism in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. That's because it's not a disorder, but a measurable trait that my colleagues and I have studied for the past six years. And like all traits, it exists to a greater or lesser degree in all of us, causing damage only when it becomes extreme. Read More.

NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS: THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS ON THEIR DAUGHTERS

PsychCentral, 30-Apr-2019

If you think of narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, the ends are occupied by the echoist, who lacks self-regard, and the narcissist, who uses exaggerated self-regard as armor. Read More.

8 SIGNS YOU’RE DATING A NARCISSIST

Ladders, 27-Apr-2019

Narcissism exists on a spectrum, Malkin said, and individuals with severe cases that compromise interpersonal relationships likely have narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.

IS YOUR TOXIC CHILDHOOD MAKING YOU OPEN TO ABUSE IN ADULTHOOD?

PsychCentral, 17-Apr-2019

This way of going along to get along is the ultimate self-effacement and, not surprisingly, these daughters have little sense of who they are, in addition to having low self-esteem. In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin describes narcissism as a spectrum with healthy self-regard in the middle, pathological narcissism on one end and echoism on the other other; the daughters I am describing here are echoists, content to stay off the radar. Read More.

WHY DO WOMEN STAY? - IS THE WRONG QUESTION

Modern Ghana, 27-Jan-2019

Batterers, the ill-formed, and ignorant individuals may blame women for staying, “But you won't find a single expert familiar with domestic violence who agrees that victims like being in an abusive relationship,” asserted Dr. Craig Malkin. Read More.

WHAT A NARCISSIST MEANS BY SAYING "I LOVE YOU"

News Dog, 22-Jan-2019

This is hard part—really understanding what motivates and drives those who are high in narcissistic traits and what underlies their words and actions. Keep in mind that it’s the underlying drivers of behavior that set the person high in narcissistic traits apart, and not always the behaviors themselves. They are more than capable of nice gestures, for example, but they don’t do for others but for the value of how they’re perceived. Read More.

AGING ANXIETY AND FACEBOOK'S 10-YEAR CHALLENGE

Psychology Today, 18-Jan-2019

Dr. Craig Malkin points out that narcissism is driven by a pathological need to feel special, and claiming not to have aged in a decade would certainly seem to express the narcissist’s need. Read More.

WHAT A NARCISSIST MEANS BY SAYING "I LOVE YOU"

News Dog, 22-Jan-2019

This is hard part—really understanding what motivates and drives those who are high in narcissistic traits and what underlies their words and actions. Keep in mind that it’s the underlying drivers of behavior that set the person high in narcissistic traits apart, and not always the behaviors themselves. They are more than capable of nice gestures, for example, but they don’t do for others but for the value of how they’re perceived. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2018

MICHAEL ADKINS: WORRIES ABOUT TRUMP’S MENTAL STATE

Daily Reporter, 26-Dec-2018

If pathological narcissists, in their reality-warping efforts to feed their addiction, bring themselves to the precipice of disaster, why should we, as nations, allow them to pull us into the abyss with them? It’s this urgent existential question, he says, that faces Democracies throughout the world today. Read More.

ARE YOU AN ECHOIST?

Good Men Project, 18-Dec-2018

Echoists fear seeming narcissistic in any way—and act accordingly. Does this describe you? Read More.

ECHOISM IS THE LITTLE-KNOWN CONDITION THAT AFFECTS VICTIMS OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE

Broadly, 12-Dec-2018

Echoism typically arises when someone is in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. The narcissist may be their partner, parent, or sibling. Highly sensitive, compassionate, and emotionally intelligent, echoists are extreme people-pleasers. Read More.

ECHOISTS ARE BASICALLY THE OPPOSITE OF NARCISSISTS

Tonic, 04-Dec-2018

It's worth noting that echoism, unlike narcissism, is not an officially recognized condition or disorder. While the term has been used informally—mostly among psychologists—for the better part of a decade, it was popularized most recently in the 2016 book Rethinking Narcissism by Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at Harvard Medical School. As Malkin put it, “Echoism is a fear of feeling special or standing out in any way, even positively. It’s a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way." Read More.

10 REASONS YOU WERE FOOLED BY A NARCISSIST

PsychCentral, 28-Nov-2018

It’s thought by most experts, including Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, and Dr. Joseph Burgo, author of The Narcissist You Know, that for all the outward braggadocio, swagger, and projected confidence, people high in narcissistic traits are deeply wounded emotionally and on the run from a deep sense of shame and inadequacy. While he won’t articulate his needs directly—that’s one of his hallmarks—his real motivations are always self-directed and have nothing to do with you. But that may only be obvious in retrospect. Read More.

ECOÍSMO: LOS INSOSPECHADOS RIESGOS DE VIVIR EN LA POSTERGACIÓN

Economía Y Negocios (Spanish), 27-Nov-2018

El ecoísmo se podría definir como el opuesto del narcisismo y del egoísmo. Los ecoístas tienen miedo de sobresalir y sienten que merecen menos o son menos importantes que los demás. Tienden a ser las personas más modestas y de mejor corazón, pero en su versión extrema lidian con una baja autoestima. No se sienten merecedores de atención o cariño, les cuesta reconocer sus propios logros y no tienen la habilidad de reconocer su voz, sus necesidades y sus sentimientos dentro de una relación. Read More.

WHEN YOU’RE NOT NARCISSISTIC ENOUGH: MEET THE ECHOIST!

PsychCentral, 11-Nov-2018

Well, no one wants to be high in narcissism but did you know that some people don’t have enough healthy self-regard and that, in some ways, they’re just as problematic as the folks at the other end of spectrum—yes, the Big Bad Wolf types—with their grandiosity, lies, and lack of empathy. As Dr. Craig Malkin explains in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, there’s actually a spectrum of narcissism. Read More.

THE SIMPLEST WAY TO SPOT NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER

Good Men Project, 02-Nov-2018

Is there a narcissist in your life? Read More.

UNLOVED DAUGHTERS AND THE STRUGGLE WITH "ECHOISM"

Psychology Today, 25-Oct-2018

Echoism isn’t a diagnosis, but a trait, and knowing about it can be valuable on the journey to reclaiming yourself from the effects of a toxic childhood or one in which your emotional needs weren’t met. Read More.

DEALING WITH NARCISSISTS: TWO TIPS FROM SHAKESPEARE

Psychology Today, 10-Oct-2018

Every play, practically, has characters who show some of the “warning signs” of narcissism that psychologist Craig Malkin has outlined—emotion phobia, emotional hot potato, exerting stealth control, placing people on pedestals, and pretending to have found a “twin.” Read More.

THE SIMPLEST WAY TO REDUCE ANXIETY & TRAUMA SYMPTOMS

Good Men Project, 01-Oct-2018

One of the most powerful tools in battling anxiety and posttraumatic stress disorder, drawn straight from science, is the knowledge of how trauma symptoms operate in our nervous system. Read More.

9 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ECHOISTS

Psychology Today, 28-Sep-2018

Echoism support groups, therapists, and workshops are springing up, and demand for information appears to be growing. But what does the word mean? Read More.

PERILS OF BEING AN ECHOIST

Daily Mail, 23-Sep-2018

Echo, the once-talkative nymph cursed to repeat back the last words she hears, whose love for Narcissus is callously spurned until she fades and dies. Echo is the silent partner to Narcissus’s cruel vanity. Read More.

25 FUN AND HELPFUL QUOTES ABOUT SELF-CONFIDENCE

Psychology Today, 14-Sep-2018

To produce anything great—to even sit down and try—often requires feeling that we’re capable of greatness, hardly the humblest state of mind. Read More.

THE MOST POWERFUL WAY TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS FROM PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSISM

Good Men Project, 31-Aug-2018

You have far more power to protect your children from emotional abuse than you realize. Read More.

10 MYTHS ABOUT CONFIDENCE THAT ARE HOLDING YOU BACK

Psychology Today, 22-Aug-2018

As Dr. Craig Malkin points out in his fascinating book, Rethinking Narcissism, having too little narcissism can also be harmful: “The less people feel special, the more self-effacing they become until, at last, they have so little sense of self they feel worthless and impotent.” Read More.

HOW TO SPOT COVERT ABUSERS

Good Men Project, 21-Aug-2018

Dr. Craig Malkin identifies the clear traits that predict covert abuse. Read More.

THESE 11 SIGNS MEAN YOUR BOSS COULD BE A NARCISSIST

Science Alert, 20-Aug-2018

Feeling an emotion "challenges their sense of perfect autonomy," he wrote. "To admit to a feeling of any kind suggests they can be affected by someone or something outside of them." Read More.

THE SIMPLEST SCIENTIFICALLY—PROVEN WAY OF OVERCOMING PTSD (AND ANXIETY)

Good Men Project, 17-Aug-2018

One of the most powerful tools in battling anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. Read More.

6 WAYS THE NARCISSIST TURNS THE TABLES ON YOU

PsychCentral, 10-Aug-2018

As Dr. Craig Malkin notes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, it’s easy to confuse or conflate the roller-coast ride of this kind of relationship—with its dramatic ups and downs, its quick turn from love-bombing to disparagement and control—with passion. Read More.

7 SUBTLE SIGNS YOU’RE DATING A NARCISSIST WHO’S REALLY GOOD AT HIDING IT

Romper, 02-Aug-2018

There are some subtle signs you're dating a narcissist who's really good at hiding it that might give you some added insight into what really might be going on with your partner and might keep you from feeling so blind-sided when the truth really does come out later on down the line. Read More.

DO YOU KEEP DATING NARCISSISTS? 4 ROMANTIC SCRIPTS YOU MUST GIVE UP

PsychCentral, 30-Jul-2018

Think about it for a second: No one is perfect, not even you, and you have to wonder why anyone would put you up there to begin with. Answer? Read More.

IS YOUR PARTNER EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE? 7 SIGNS YOU SHOULDN’T IGNORE

PsychCentral, 10-Jul-2018

These are actually red flags but may not appear to be. It’s in the context of love bombing that the abuser begins to isolate his or her partner, either by asserting what Dr. Malkin calls “stealth control” or by an outright protest. Read More.

5 SAD DETAILS ABOUT ANTHONY BOURDAIN'S SUICIDE, INCLUDING THE 2016 PARTS UNKNOWN EPISODE THAT SHOULD'VE WARNED US HE NEEDED HELP

Yahoo Lifestyle, 08-Jun-2018

If you do not trust that you can depend on people for love, for caring, connection, you're going to have to soothe yourself some other way. You can soothe yourself with narcissism, you can soothe yourself with a drug addiction. Read More.

6 WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST FROM DAY 1

PsychCentral, 23-May-2018

Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, makes this point brilliantly because how the narcissist controls you may not be as obvious as telling you what to do or issuing directives or ultimatums. Instead, the narcissist switches up plans you’ve already made—whisking you off for a weekend alone when you’ve made plans with friends, for example, or deciding that a French restaurant would be so much more glamorous than ordering in—always under the guise of making things nicer or better. This allows him to run your life without your even noticing; in time, you’ll forget that you had your own wants and needs which is the point. Read More.

IS HE OR SHE REALLY A NARCISSIST? IS CALLING SOMEONE A “NARC” A FAD?

PsychCentral, 03-May-2018

On the far ends of the spectrum are those who lack healthy narcissism—these are people Malkin calls echoists—and those who are addicted to attention, the narcissists we are fixated on. Read More.

ARE YOU A VICTIM OF GASLIGHTING?

U.S. News & World Report, 25-Apr-2018

The more addicted to feeling special and flawless they are and the more they're confronted with information that challenges that, the more they'll start distorting reality," Malkin says. "If reality doesn't match their sense of how wonderful they are, they'll do things to make you feel like you're memory isn't correct. Read More.

WHY DAUGHTERS OF UNLOVING MOTHERS STRUGGLE TO FIND A PARTNER

Psychology Today, 09-Apr-2018

In the case of the unloved daughter, what she’s learned about love in childhood — that it must earned, fought for, sought, and is never given freely — makes it easier to mistake the arousal of intense feelings such as anger, pain, or fear for passion. Read More.

THERE’S NOTHING ROMANTIC ABOUT LOVE BOMBING

Huffington Post, 16-Mar-2018

Love bombing, unlike real love, is a self-centered, anxious pursuit, with the singular goal of acquiring someone because it boosts the bomber’s ego. Read More.

CURSE OF NARCISSISM

Medium, 12-Mar-2018

While there are several types of narcissists what they all have in common is “self-enhancement”. Their thoughts, behaviors, and statements set them apart from others, and this feeling of distinction soothes them, because they’re otherwise struggling with an unstable sense of self…a pervasive disturbance in a person’s ability to manage his or her emotions… Read More.

11 SUBTLE SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Huffington Post, 05-Mar-2018

While overt control — insisting they get their own way, asserting veto power over plans, making constant demands without discussion — is easy to spot, what Dr. Craig Malkin calls ‘stealth control,’ a behavior he identifies with narcissists, is much more insidious. Read More.

CAN NARCISSISTS ACTUALLY CHANGE THEIR WAYS? WE ASKED THE EXPERTS

Huffington Post, 28-Feb-2018

“The truth is that not all narcissists care about fame, looks or money,” said Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and author of Rethinking Narcissism. “Some can be extremely quiet, so if we get too stuck on these images — really, stereotypes — we miss signs of trouble that have nothing to do with vanity or greed.” Read More.

7 TOXIC BEHAVIORS YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE

PsychCentral, 23-Feb-2018

Rather than own his or her feelings and take responsibility for them, the narcissist projects those onto you—trying to make his or her anger yours. Read More.

HOW TO DEAL WITH A NARCISSIST COWORKER

HR Digest, 17-Feb-2018

Craig Malkin, a psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School suggests you should walk back when you're receiving the emotional outburst from a narcissist coworker. Read More.

WHAT EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT COVERT ABUSERS

Psychology Today, 16-Feb-2018

There’s another kind of violence, directed at men and women alike, that isn’t as obvious. It creeps into people’s lives in the form of whispered profanities, subtle put-downs, and simmering rage. It thrives in the shadows, as it always has, wreaking havoc with people’s health, safety, and sanity. Mental health professionals call it “covert abuse.” Read More.

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST ON THE VERY FIRST DATE

Huffington Post, 05-Jan-2018

Narcissism exists on spectrum; it’s possible to have some characteristics of narcissism without having full-blown, clinically diagnosed narcissistic personality disorder. There are some telltale signs. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2017

THE POST THAT HIT A NERVE: WHY UNLOVED DAUGHTERS FALL FOR NARCISSISTS

PsychCentral, 30-Dec-2017

Narcissists are experts at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

5 WAYS NARCISSISM MAKES PEOPLE STRONGER, SMARTER, AND MORE SUCCESSFUL

Business Insider, 22-Dec-2017

Malkin introduces the concept of "healthy narcissism," which means that you display some narcissistic qualities — but they contribute to, rather than detract from, your success in life. Read More.

EVERYONE’S A LITTLE BIT NARCISSISTIC, BUT 5 TRAITS CAN GIVE TRUE NARCISSISTS AWAY

Business Insider, 15-Dec-2017

All narcissists have "self-enhancement" in common: They somehow stand out from the pack. Read More.

A PSYCHOLOGIST REVEALS OUTSTANDING TRAITS OF THE SUPER RICH

Business Insider, 13-Dec-2017

When we look at the relationship between wealth and wealth accumulation and measures of narcissism, people's narcissistic scores go up as they tend to earn more. What all super wealthy people have in common is they feel deserving of their wealth. They don't feel any conflicts about pursuing it. Read More.

HOW TO WORK WITH A NARCISSISTIC BOSS

Business Insider, 12-Dec-2017

If you're dealing with a boss who is just sort of arrogant and can be aloof and difficult to deal with, there are two approaches that are very effective. Read More.

LOOK OUT FOR THESE EARLY WARNING SIGNS THAT YOU'RE DATING A NARCISSIST

Business Insider, 09-Dec-2017

Some early warning signs that you're with a narcissist when you're dating someone that you really want to pay attention to all come down to one thing: All narcissists hate depending on others in mutually caring and emotional ways. Read More.

REPORT: LEADING PSYCHIATRISTS WARN TRUMP’S MENTAL ILLNESS THREATENS NATION

Patheos, 07-Oct-2017

Craig Malkin writes on pathological narcissism and politics as a lethal mix. Read More.

DIAGNOSING DONALD TRUMP, AND HIS VOTERS

The New Yorker, 06-Oct-2017

Craig Malkin, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School and the author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” suggests relying on “people already trained to provide functional and risk assessment based entirely on observation—forensic psychiatrists and psychologists as well as ‘profilers’ groomed by the CIA, the FBI, and various law enforcement agencies.” Read More.

THESE 27 TOP SHRINKS THINK TRUMP MIGHT BE NUTS

The Daily Beast, 02-Oct-2017

Healthy narcissism is a trait that all of us carry: the drive to feel special or unique. “In fact, people with a healthy dose of narcissism are happier, more optimistic and consistently confident than people at the low end of the spectrum,” he writes. Pathological [or malignant] narcissism begins “when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’” writes Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

FEELING OVERWHELMED? THE MFA SAYS ONE MINUTE WITH A ROTHKO PAINTING COULD HELP

WBUR 90.9, 22-Sep-2017

Malkin points to the rise of “nature coaches” who help people reconnect not just with the earth and a sense of peace, but also with themselves.Art can also help you step back and reflect, Malkin says — as long as it speaks to you. Read More.

IS DONALD TRUMP ACTUALLY CRAZY? 27 MENTAL-HEALTH EXPERTS OFFER UP THEIR CONCLUSIONS (COMMENTARY)

The Oregonian, 19-Sep-2017

Richard Nixon, the 37th president, was a narcissist, clinical psychologist Craig Malkin states. Donald Trump, the 45th president, is a step beyond that: a pathological narcissist. “Pathological narcissism begins,” Malkin writes, “when people become so addicted to feeling special that, just like with any drug, they’ll do anything to get their ‘high,’ including lie, steal, cheat, betray and even hurt those closest to them.” Read More.

5 IMPORTANT MYTHS (AND FACTS) ABOUT NARCISSISM

U.S. News & World Report, 30-Aug-2017

Fact: Like many things in life, narcissism occurs on a continuum from healthy to unhealthy (or pathological). On the positive side, people who have narcissistic tendencies are often charming, intelligent and intuitive, experts say. Healthy narcissism involves “seeing yourself through slightly rose-colored glasses,” Malkin says. “It lets you dream big but not at the expense of relationships, and it helps you persist in the face of failure.” Read More.

THE NARCISSIST’S PLAYBOOK: TEN TACTICS TO RECOGNIZE

PsychCentral, 24-Aug-2017

Everyone fights—and that’s what you keep telling yourself—but somehow you manage not to fully register, not at the start at least, that he doesn’t own up to what he’s feeling. Instead, he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” ascribing his feelings to you. Read More.

TRUE DO-GOODERS DON'T DO GOOD FOR 'LIKES' ON SOCIAL MEDIA

The Straits Times, 08-Aug-2017

According to Dr. Craig Malkin, who wrote the book, Rethinking Narcissism, communal narcissists regard themselves as especially nurturing, understanding and empathetic. They proudly announce how much they give to charity or how little they spend on themselves. Communal narcissists come from many walks of life. Read More.

DIAGNOSING AND TREATING NARCISSISM

The Carlat Report, 10-Jul-2017

At its heart, pathological narcissism is a desperate need to feel special—in fact, you can call it an addiction to feeling special. The confusing thing is that we tend to focus on one presentation, which is the loud, arrogant, conceited narcissist, but that’s only one type. Click here to get the full article from The Carlat Report. Click here to get the full article from The Carlat Report.

TRUMP ASKS WHY OBAMA ‘DID NOTHING’ TO STOP RUSSIA’S ‘MEDDLING’ IN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION

MarketWatch, 24-Jun-2017

One response over Twitter from Dr. Craig Malkin summed up some of the of critical responses to the Trump tweet. Read More.

THE REAL NARCISSISTS

Willing Ways, 15-Jun-2017

One response over Twitter from Dr. The label is everywhere, but it's widely misused to describe anyone who offends us. The truth? A little narcissism is good for you. Read More.

ON A CAROUSEL WITH A NARCISSIST? 5 STEPS TO GET OFF

PsychCentral, 15-Jun-2017

The problem with seeing the narcissist as the Big Bad Wolf is that you expect him to behave horribly in obvious ways and that’s probably not going to happen. The truth is that he’s a master of grand gestures which Dr. Craig Malkin has identified as his tactic of stealth control. Read More.

IN DELUSIONAL TWEET, TRUMP CLAIMS ‘VINDICATION’ FROM ‘LEAKER’ COMEY. GETS EPIC RESPONSE

Political D!g, 09-Jun-2017

Dr. Malkin fires back about Comey's firing. Read More.

THREE WAYS TO SPOT A NARCISSIST

meQuilibrium, 06-Jun-2017

No one wants to be accused of being a narcissist: someone with an excessive interest in themselves. But how can you tell if you (or someone you know) is a narcissist? When does self-interest become self-limiting? The answer lies in knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. Read More.

ECHOISM: THE FLIP SIDE OF NARCISSISM.

Elephant Journal, 31-May-2017

Echoists tend to be introverted because they’ve learned it’s unsafe to express themselves. Read More.

9 THINGS YOU NEED TO DO IF YOU’RE INVOLVED WITH A NARCISSIST

PsychCentral, 31-May-2017

Because narcissists in popular culture are portrayed as bad guys and gals, many people expect a straightforward scenario—like being locked up in a dungeon by someone who acts like a thug or being derided or humiliated publicly front of other people. Nope, that’s not how the narcissist plays it. Read More.

9 THINGS A NARCISSIST WILL NEVER DO

PsychCentral, 22-May-2017

What the person high in narcissistic traits doesn’t do constitutes a pattern of its own and, in many ways, makes him easier to identify. Once you’ve focused on what he isn’t doing, you can see that what motivates him isn’t the need to connect to you in any meaningful way—which is, of course, what you’ve been hoping for all along—but a very private and specific agenda which is making sure that his vision of himself stays protected and invulnerable. Read More.

IN PRAISE OF SELFISH WOMEN

Quartz, 13-May-2017

We all have narcissistic tendencies that can be roughly measured on a scale of 1 to 10, with the most problematic cases at either end of the spectrum. Read More.

DONALD TRUMP WAGES WAR AGAINST REPUBLICANS OF THE FREEDOM CAUCUS — AND TWITTER LAUGHS AT THE HYPOCRISY!

Perez Hilton, 30-Mar-2017

Dr. Malkin was quick to criticize to the President's latest divisive remarks. Read More.

NARSISIZME YENI BIR BAKIŞ (TURKISH)

İletişim, 15-Mar-2017

Lately, everyone is talking about narcissism. In newspapers and magazines, in television programs, on the internet, in everyday conversations, this word comes out constantly. It is mostly used with negative connotations and accepted by many as an "epidemic". What is the cause of narcissism and, worst of all, is it bad? Read More.

10 PROJECTIONS FROM THE MIND OF A NARCISSIST

Power of Positivity, 10-Mar-2017

There’s a long-standing belief…that narcissists actually feel great about themselves…Savvier researchers recognized that the emperor had no clothes…They hooked the narcissists up to a lie detector (fake) then asked them how they felt about themselves. Suddenly, their high self-esteem vanished... Read More.

DOES YOUR SIGNATURE REVEAL YOU ARE A NARCISSIST? RESEARCHERS FIND LARGE SIGNATURES ARE A SIGN OF DARK TRAITS

Daily Mail, 27-Feb-2017

A study analyzing the signatures of 500 chief financial officers found that signature size is linked only to the dark elements of narcissism. Read More.

PATIENT IN CHIEF

The Huffington Post, 25-Feb-2017

Narcissism is best understood as a drive to feel special, to stand out from the rest of the 7 billion people on the planet. At its healthiest, it can engender big dreams, charisma, and ambition. Read More.

WHEN YOUR BOSS IS A NARCISSIST

Psychology Today, 08-Jan-2017

Narcissists are ego-driven, big-headed, cold-blooded individuals who expect total loyalty from others without being loyal in return. According to Dr. Craig Malkin, Harvard Medical School Lecturer and author of Rethinking Narcissism, narcissists want to feel important. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2016

9 LITTLE WAYS TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND FEEL BUTTERFLIES AGAIN

Coastal Courier, 20-Dec-2016

You two still love each other — but the days are getting duller. Your husband is a great man, but sometimes it's difficult to rekindle the spark you once had. If your husband needs a bit of a nudge, here are some small ways to give the him butterflies he had when you were dating. Read More.

22 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE A NARCISSIST

Midland Daily News, 09-Dec-2016

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin writes in The Huffington Post. That's why narcissists avoid emotional displays. Read More.

LIFE AFTER YOU: RECOVERING FROM A NARCISSIST

PsychCentral, 02-Dec-2016

It’s often only at the end that you may fully appreciate how much of you has been chipped away over the course of the relationship. Read More.

SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS MONTH

Kerry Hayes, 04-Nov-2016

“Eventually there’s sort of this wearing down for people on the receiving end of the abuse where they continue to tolerate more and over time feel less entitled to safety.” Read More.

NARCISSISTIC PARENTING: ITS HARMFUL & LONG-TERM SIDE EFFECTS ON CHILDREN

Parent Herald, 30-Oct-2016

Children with parents who have narcissistic personality disorder display side effects, with chronic self-blame among them. According to a The Huffington Post report penned by clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, narcissistic parents are emotionally tone deaf and they are too absorbed in themselves to focus on their child's pleas or pains. Read More.

WHY WE CAN'T STOP READING ABOUT TRUMP

LA Weekly, 30-Oct-2016

"Absolutely, we are attracted to this kind of extroverted narcissist," Malkin says. "They’re more outgoing, they tend to be chest-thumping, glib, show a lot of braggadocio. They’re overwhelmingly rated as more attractive, whether they’re physically attractive or not. Narcissists are more likely to take risks." Read More.

8 COMMON EFFECTS OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTING

The Huffington Post, 27-Oct-2016

What happens to the development of our personality when we live in the shadow of narcissistic parent? Here are eight of the most common effects. Read More.

DO YOU HAVE A NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE? THESE TRAITS CAN BE TELLTALE SIGNS.

Today.com, 24-Oct-2016

When narcissists feel vulnerable, they don’t want to process those feelings. Instead, they put others down to bolster their self-esteem, what Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato.” Read More.

IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE NARCISSUS?

Dr. Gail Beck, 23-Oct-2016

Narcissism is a word that gets used a lot these days, mostly because of the American election, but I am absolutely going to say nothing else about that because I want to focus on the central message of Craig Malkin’s 2015 book Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad – and Surprisingly Good – About Feeling Special. Read More.

NARCISSISTS ARE EVERYWHERE — BUT THEY MAY NOT BE THE PEOPLE YOU THINK THEY ARE

The Washington Post, 07-Oct-2016

Some true narcissists are obsessed with helping other people — kind of self-aggrandizement through martyrdom. We’ve all met people like this, Craig Malkin, author of “Rethinking Narcissism,” tells Webber — “self-sacrificing to the point where you can’t stand to be in the room with them.” Other narcissists might have so damaged a sense of self that they cannot handle criticism and become highly introverted. Read More.

BOOSTING YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MAY BE KEY TO WINNING AND KEEPING FRIENDS.

Today.com, 04-Oct-2016

"Part of it is the self-centeredness of the personality," he said. "With narcissism, you are looking for the power and status. That can interfere with relationships over time if what you are looking for is status over warmth and caring." Read More.

IS HE OR SHE AN ADDICT FIRST? OR A NARCISSIST FIRST?

Psychology Today, 03-Oct-2016

Deep down, is every addict also a narcissist? And is every narcissist actually an addict? These are the difficult questions that the partner of a narcissist and addict has to explore and answer for him or herself. Read More.

IS IT TIME TO GET HELP? NARCISSISM EPIDEMIC.

Aquarius Magazine, 01-Oct-2016

Malkin argues that modern society is no more narcissistic than previous generations, merely that today’s show off has more platforms on which to do it. He says, “Technology is only as healthy as our use of it. Research suggests that people largely express their personalities though social media: extroverts are more extroverted, introverts are more introverted, narcissists are more narcissistic.” Read More.

WHY UNLOVED DAUGHTERS FALL FOR NARCISSISTS

PsychCentral, 28-Sep-2016

Feelings of anger and jealousy can easily be triggered in an anxious person by the threat of separation or a perceived slight; the narcissist in your life knows this about you and he’s likely to play this reactivity to his advantage. Narcissists are expert at projecting their feelings onto you; it’s what Dr. Craig Malkin calls playing “emotional hot potato” in his book Rethinking Narcissism. Read More.

5 MOMENTS GETTING BACK TOGETHER WITH AN EX IS A WASTE OF TIME

FemaleNetwork.com, 27-Sep-2016

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School says those who are abused usually rationalize the situation. “People wind up blaming themselves for the abusive behavior of their partners. They convince themselves if they approach the person differently, maybe they won’t be abused.” He also says that having a relationship with an abusive partner is like a gambling addiction, “the person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive.” Read More.

HOW NARCISSISM HURTS US ALL

Alternet, 17-Sep-2016

Craig Malkin, the author of Rethinking Narcissism, warns that expecting a one-size-fits-all manifestation of narcissism is likely to cloud your judgment when you encounter one who runs against the popular grain. Read More.

WHAT TO DO WHEN A WOMAN DOESN’T LIKE YOU

True Viral News, 15-Sep-2016

The truth being that “people are attracted to us, or not, for all sorts for reasons that are beyond our control. We worry about the right word, the right approach, the right clothes, all because we’re convinced that if we craft ourselves in the perfect way, we’ll find a great date.” Read More.

5 THINGS A NARCISSIST NEVER DOES

PsychCentral, 05-Sep-2016

Think of it more like a jolt of energy that accompanies any intense feeling and courses through your nervous system. A big dose of arousal ramps up our feelings of attraction. Anxiety excites. Anger entices. Terror titillates. Unfortunately, as far as our bodies are concerned, uncertainty is as good a source of passion as any other feeling. Read More.

THE REAL NARCISSISTS (COVER FEATURE)

Psychology Today Magazine, 01-Sep-2016

Dr. Malkin is featured in this month's cover story of Psychology Today. Read More.

DOES YOUR OFFICE HAVE A CLEAR HIERARCHY? THEN YOU COULD BE A NARCISSIST, RESEARCHERS SAY.

Daily Mail, 17-Aug-2016

People who have narcissistic tendencies are more likely to work in an office with a clear hierarchy, researchers have found. They discovered those with narcissistic traits tended to support hierarchical businesses and organizations when they were either at the top of the hierarchy or when they expected they could rise to the top. Read More.

LINDSAY LOHAN EXPOSES A SAD REALITY ABOUT ABUSE

attn:, 08-Aug-2016

Many people in abusive relationships faced domestic abuse as children or watched one of their parents suffer in an abusive relationship. Read More.

4 KEYS TO LEAVING A BAD RELATIONSHIP

The Huffington Post, 08-Aug-2016

Self-blame comes in handy when a relationship no longer works and leaving feels too painful. If we convince ourselves that someone’s being hurtful or insensitive because of our own failings, there’s still hope. All we have to do is improve. If I’m the problem, then the happiness of the relationship is entirely in my hands. It’s a solution that preserves hope at the expense of our self-esteem. Read More.

DID YOU MARRY A NARCISSIST?

PsychCentral, 05-Aug-2016

The caricature of the narcissist the culture embraces—the guy so full of himself that every sentence begins with “I,” the bully who’s easy to spot from just a few yards, the control freak out in the open—is, according to Craig Malkin, far from the truth. Read More.

WHY AMERICA CAN’T GET ENOUGH OF TRUMP’S CAMPAIGN OF SPECTACLE

The Buffalo News, 17-Jul-2016

Most politicians are narcissists, Malkin said, and voters usually can discern the healthy ones from the rest. Read More.

I'M SPECIAL! THE SCIENCE OF NARCISSISM

Canvas8, 15-Jul-2016

While narcissism is often considered a bad thing, does it have to be? Psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin isn’t sure. He sat down with Canvas8 to explain what healthy narcissism looks like. Read More.

THESE SIMPLE STEPS WILL IMPROVE YOUR DATING LIFE

FemaleNetwork.com, 13-Jul-2016

There’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to carry herself–and someone who is confident enough not to seek another person’s approval is definitely attractive. Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a Harvard psychologist says that confidence makes you seem more trustworthy and the lack of it “may even unintentionally spoil the attraction. Read More.

IS NARCISSISM ALL BAD?

Beliefnet, 08-Jul-2016

Narcissism is more than a stubborn character flaw or a severe mental illness or a rapidly spreading cultural disease, transmitted by social media. Read More.

7 HOURS OF CEC CREDIT FOR RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Web Wire, 21-Jun-2016

With this being the final month for mental health professionals to obtain their licensing hours through continuing education credits, if you or a colleague is in the process of gathering credits, the book Rethinking Narcissism by Dr. Craig Malkin could be perfect for you! Read More.

THE SECRET TO SPOTTING SUBTLE NARCISSISTS

The Huffington Post, 20-Jun-2016

Subtle narcissism is marked by an entitlement surge — those moments when a normally understanding friend or partner or coworker angrily behaves as if the world owes them. It’s usually triggered by a sudden fear that their special status has been threatened in some way. Read More.

WHY RECOVERING FROM THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE IS SO HARD

Psychology Today, 20-Jun-2016

One of the most dizzyingly disorienting experiences about uncovering layers of lies is that you end up questioning your judgment about everything, especially if you had a partner who covered his or her tracks by trying to convince you that you were ‘crazy’ or ‘paranoid.’ Read More.

A NARCISSISTIC LEADER TENDS TO MOVE TOWARDS BEING A FASCIST LEADER

Intuitive fred888, 09-Jun-2016

Craig Malkin calls a lack of healthy narcissism "echoism" after the nypmh Echo in the mythology of Narcissus. Read More.

4 REASONS A NARCISSIST IS LIKE CATNIP–AT FIRST…

PsychCentral, 08-Jun-2016

The narcissist likes to be in control and unless you are willing to park your own needs by the door in perpetuity, there are bound to be conflicts—lots of them. Additionally, the narcissist is an expert at playing games and manipulating others; he plays what Dr. Malkin calls “emotional hot potato,” meaning that he denies his own feelings and projects them onto you. Read More.

THE COMMUNAL NARCISSIST: ANOTHER WOLF WEARING A SHEEP OUTFIT

Psychology Today, 24-May-2016

In his book Rethinking Narcissism, Dr. Craig Malkin distinguishes between three types of narcissists—the extrovert, the introvert, and the communal. Read More.

WHY WE STILL THINK ABOUT RODIN'S 'THE THINKER,' NOW SITTING PENSIVELY AT THE PEABODY ESSEX

90.9 WBUR, 16-May-2016

Malkin is author of the book, “Rethinking Narcissism,” and blogs for The Huffington Post. For him, "The Thinker" is open to interpretation, and he believes our reactions to the sculpture tell us something about ourselves. Read More.

13 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW IF YOU ARE DIVORCING A NARCISSIST

Psychology Today, 11-May-2016

“A good therapist,” says Malkin, “should talk to you about the possibility of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, common in abuse survivors, even when the only abuse has been serial infidelity.” Keep in mind that your lawyer isn’t a therapist, and your therapist isn’t an attorney. Read More.

FEATURED IN PSYCHOLOGIE HEUTE - GERMAN PUBLICATION

Featured In Psychologie Heute - German Publication, 01-May-2016

Ich finde mich prima! Sie stellen sich selbst in den Mittelpunkt und haben kein Ohr und kein Herz für die anderen: Extreme Narzissten sind eine Plage. Doch zu eine gewissen Grad sind wir fast alle narzisstisch. Wir sind von uns eingenommen, halten uns für besser, als wir tatsächlich sind. Und das ist gut so!

WHAT IT TAKES — 2016: EXCERPT II FROM ‘BRIGHT, INFINITE, FUTURE’

The Huffington Post, 28-Apr-2016

While a strong ego is necessary to survive the political gauntlet, if it’s too large then a person can plunge over the cliff into narcissism if not solipsism, a place where others exist only for your enhancement. And extreme self-absorption is inconsistent with the public good or maintaining public support. Read More.

13 HONEST CONFESSIONS FROM PEOPLE MARRIED TO NARCISSISTS

The Huffington Post, 27-Apr-2016

Keep in mind that not everyone who’s vain or self-absorbed necessarily has the disorder. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, an instructor of psychology at Harvard University and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special. Here are some signs to look out for. Read More.

HOW ARE WE FOOLED BY A NARCISSIST? (LEARN HOW!)

Surviving Narcissistic Abuse, 13-Apr-2016

While many descriptions of narcissistic behavior would have you imagine someone who begins every sentence with “I” and demands that everything be done his way, it’s actually more complicated than that. You don’t fall for it because you’re stupid but because you misread his motivation. Read More.

UNDERSTANDING THE LANGUAGE OF THE NARCISSIST

PR Newswire, 12-Apr-2016

In reading her book, I have found myself instead becoming her fan." Dr. Craig Malkin, Psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School and author of the critically acclaimed book, "Rethinking Narcissism," totes Swithin's work, "After years of research as an advocate, Swithin knows enough about these disorders to put some clinicians to shame. If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process." Read More.

WARUM DIE DIAGNOSE NARZISSMUS ETWAS GUTES HAT

Die Welt, 12-Apr-2016

Malkin takes the word narcissism and shows how adaptive it is for people to feel valuable. Read More.

FEATURED IN DIE WELT - GERMAN PUBLICATION

Featured in Literarische Welt - German Publication, 09-Apr-2016

Verdammt, ich lieb mich. Craig Malkin erklart Narzissmus als Adaptionsstrategie.

HOW TO SPOT (AND WORK WITH) THE OFFICE NARCISSIST

Fast Company, 08-Apr-2016

We can get too focused on that stereotype that we miss the danger signs that have nothing to do with greed or vanity. Narcissism is a spectrum of self-importance, and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance, says Malkin. Read More.

ERST ICH – UND DANN DIE ANDEREN

DiePresse.com, 05-Apr-2016

Narcissism occurs, according to Malkin, on a graded scale. He deems insufficient narcissism to be harmful. "The less someone thinks something better, the more he takes himself back until he has such a low self-esteem that he finds himself worthless and powerless." Read More.

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IS TRUMP’S NARCISSISM REALLY A BAD THING?

The Goodmen Project, 26-Dec-2015

We paint narcissism as a bad thing, but in truth, what we call narcissism contains components of healthy functioning. The challenge, Dr. Malkin points out, is when these ingredients are in bad proportions. Read More.

9 THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT LOVING AGAIN AFTER EMOTIONAL ABUSE

The Huffington Post, 17-Dec-2015

Letting friends fall to the wayside leaves you completely dependent on one person for connection, making it that much more difficult to leave. Read More.

ARE YOU A NARCISSIST?

Curtis Yungen, 15-Dec-2015

Not all narcissists are this obvious. The more subtle narcissists may seem self-effacing and modest, but they secretly harbor an unhealthy sense of entitlement which will suddenly rear its ugly head when they fear their special status has been threatened in some way. Read More.

BOOK REVIEW: RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Eating Disorders Blogs, 07-Dec-2015

Whether the Narcissist in your life is a spouse/partner, adult child, parent, boss or co-worker, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprisingly Good—About Feeling Special by Dr. Craig Malkin, will help you deal with him or her rather than eat over the distress they’re bound to generate. Read More.

THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE REJECTION FROM WOMEN

Men's Health, 04-Dec-2015

"There is no right move,” Malkin says. “Some women might even like the guy who seems a little nervous or quiet. One women’s Adonis is another’s Quasimodo — and vice versa." Read More.

8 QS TO ASK TO KNOW IF YOUR JEALOUSY IS NORMAL (OR WAY OUT OF HAND)

Your Tango, 28-Nov-2015

A little jealousy is totally normal, but are you the green goblin? Jealousy is rarely a black and white issue, and it is rarely objective, either. Read More.

7 TIPS FOR CHOOSING THE NEXT PRESIDENT

RGJ.com, 25-Nov-2015

Credit goes to Craig Malkin, a Harvard psychologist and author of "A Psychologist's Open Letter To U.S. Voters." His subtitle caught my eye: "A research-backed guide to picking the next president." Facts and logic affecting an election? Now, that's interesting. Read More.

THE 100 MOST FOLLOWED PSYCHOLOGISTS AND NEUROSCIENTISTS ON TWITTER!

The British Psychology Society, 18-Nov-2015

The 100 most followed psychologists and neuroscientists on Twitter based on follower counts recorded over the last few weeks. See More.

SECRET SIGNS OF NARCISSISM

Oprah Weekly, 16-Nov-2015

Are you in a toxic relationship without knowing it? A Harvard researcher explains how to identify people that may hurt you—and how to protect your emotional health. Learn More.

5 THINGS PSYCHOLOGISTS WISH THEIR PATIENTS WOULD DO

Everyday Health, 16-Nov-2015

“Many of my clients berate themselves for each and every mistake,” he says. But research shows that this kind of self-punishment is the worst way to change behavior. “We’d all do much better celebrating our moments of success than laying into ourselves for our ‘failures,’” he says. Read More.

READ THIS TO MOVE YOUR LIFE FORWARD

Oprah's Book Club 2.0, 12-Nov-2015

Is there someone in your life who's hurting you and you just don't know it? In this Harvard researcher's illuminating—reads-like-a-novel—book, he reveals how to identify and repair your relationships to live with more fulfillment. Click here for more details.

THIS IS A SALES CALL, NOT A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL

Inc., 10-Nov-2015

Don't allow emotional neediness to derail your confidence. Instead, switch to connectedness, which Dr. Craig Malkin defines as a valuing of relationships and sensitivity to the effects of our actions on others. Read More.

THINK CAREFULLY BEFORE CALLING SOMEONE A NARCISSIST

Catholic Herald, 29-Oct-2015

Dr Malkin teaches at Harvard Medical School, and in his book he gives fascinating insights which have helped me understand what is ‘unhealthy narcissism’. Read More.

LETTERS: THE CULTURE OF NARCISSISM

New York Times, 23-Oct-2015

The question of why the public currently seems fascinated enough by apparent narcissists to buy their products and turn them into celebrities is not addressed. Read More.

23 THOUGHTS ON “READER QUESTION: ABOUT THIS BLOG…?”

An Upturned Soul, 15-Oct-2015

Information about the narcissistic continuum is finally being offered to the public. Dr. Craig Malkin has written an excellent book. Read More.

CAN A NARCISSIST EVER REALLY CHANGE? THE EXPERTS WEIGH IN

QueenBeeing.com, 14-Oct-2015

Yes, Narcissists CAN Change - "I’m going to go on record as saying yes—I do believe it’s possible for people to change, even if they’ve been diagnosed with something as deeply entrenched and formidable as a personality disorder,..." Read More.

21 SIGNS YOU'RE A NARCISSIST

Popsugar, 13-Oct-2015

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure," says Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin. Read More.

I AM A NARCISSIST. THAT'S A GOOD THING.

Psychology Today, 13-Oct-2015

"Chock full of eminently practical advice on how to cope with the dangers of narcissism, in ourselves and others, Rethinking Narcissism brings much needed compassion and clarity to one of the most vexing problems in mental health without ever resorting to false hopes or naivete. In that way, the book itself is special.”—Tom Wooton, Huffington Post Blogger and author of The Bipolar Advantage Read More.

6 SIGNS YOU WERE RAISED BY A NARCISSIST

Huffington Post, 12-Oct-2015

A narcissistic parent will trample all over their family to address their own desires without giving much thought to what anyone else needs. Because of this, some adult children of narcissists will actually overcorrect and bend over backwards to make sure no one could ever possibly perceive them this way. Alternately, they may have grown up all their lives being told that their needs don’t matter. Either way, the result is the same: They let people walk all over them because they’re not in touch with what they need and they don’t know how to express it. Read More.

RIHANNA POIGNANTLY EXPLAINS WHY SHE WENT BACK TO CHRIS BROWN

Health, 07-Oct-2015

Craig Malkin, PhD, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School, offered a helpful analogy for this mental barrier: He likened the dysfunctional relationship to an addiction. “The person being abused is focused on the positive and waiting for the next positive. There’s a psychological effect like gambling: the moments of tenderness and intimacy are unpredictable, but they are so intense and fulfilling that the victim winds up staying in the hopes that a moment like that will happen again.” Read More.

8 WAYS TO TELL IF YOU'RE IN A HEALTHY PLACE ON THE JEALOUSY SPECTRUM

Overage.com, 06-Oct-2015

We recently published an article on this site by Dr. Craig Malkin about how narcissism exists on a spectrum -- and either end of this spectrum is a rather unhealthy place to be. That's how we first started thinking about this idea of jealousy existing on a spectrum, too. Read More.

OCTOBER’S BOOK OF THE MONTH: RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Patrick Betdavid, 01-Oct-2015

Harvard Medical School psychologist and Huffington Post blogger Craig Malkin addresses the “narcissism epidemic,” by illuminating the spectrum of narcissism, identifying ways to control the trait, and explaining how too little of it may be a bad thing. Read More.

3 SIGNS YOU NEED A NARCISSIST EXIT STRATEGY

Redonline.co.uk, 30-Sep-2015

The pattern of a relationship with a narcissist often goes like this: a flurry of attention, a huge romantic drama... then nothing. Or your partner seems to care but you keep feeling worthless, neglected or alone. 'The good and bad coexist,' says Dr Malkin. 'We stay for the good. But you don't have to wait for physical abuse to leave.' So when should you leave? Read More.

WHAT’S YOUR NARCISSIST SCORE?

Redonline.co.uk, 30-Sep-2015

‘Narcissists can be aloof, insensitive, entitled – but not all the time,’ says Malkin. ‘They’re difficult to live with. It’s confusing for people in relationships, there’s no ongoing abuse that’s a reason to leave the relationship but things don't feel right, don't feel secure. Partners often don’t feel special in the lives of milder narcissists, more like one of the crowd.’ Other varieties of narcissist are the ‘fair-weather friend’ or a ‘ruthless co-worker’. Read More.

YOU, ME, AND THE NARCISSIST NEXT DOOR

Psychology Today, 29-Sep-2015

In Dr. Malkin’s view, both the echoist and the narcissist are products of their childhoods, with what he terms insecure love identified at the culprit. While acknowledging that nature does play a role—personality traits such as introversion or extraversion, a higher narcissistic drive in some children or a more fragile nature in others—he lands firmly in the court of nurture, arguing that what pushes people to one end or another of the spectrum is how they are parented. Read More.

WHY EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS SUCH A NEGLECTED TOPIC

The Covington News, 25-Sep-2015

There are other factors that make it even more difficult to pick out those that are suffering from emotional abuse. One clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Craig Malkin explains about a common type of emotional abuse that sometimes both the victim and the abuser have no idea they are playing the roles in an abusive relationship. Read More.

‘SELFISH,’ BY KIM KARDASHIAN WEST, AND MORE

The New York Times, 22-Sep-2015

“Narcissism isn’t all bad,” he writes. “In fact, some narcissism is good — even vital — for us to lead happy, fulfilled and productive lives.” He writes that “creativity, leadership and high self-esteem” are associated with the feeling that one is better than average. Read More.

Why a Little Narcissism Can Be Healthy

Quiet Revolution, 08-Sep-2015

Confusing introversion and narcissism is a common mistake. The irony of the introvert’s experience in the boisterous, extroverted world, where loud debating and relentless socializing are the norm, is that the least selfish people end up being accused of being narcissists: entitled, aloof, and insensitive. But nothing could be further from the truth: most introverts actually need to feel more, not less, entitled—at least when it comes to enjoying their inner lives. They need more pride, more confidence, and more appreciation of what makes them unique. Read More.

Healthy Narcissism? 8 Ways To Be (A Bit) More Like Donald Trump

WBUR Blog, NPR affiliate, 07-Sep-2015

Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the new book, “Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — And Surprising Good — About Feeling Special.” A clinical psychologist and instructor at Harvard Medical School, he begins with a massive disclaimer: “I would not advise anyone to emulate Donald Trump in a lot of the ways that he behaves.”But broadly speaking, he says, it’s a myth that narcissism is all bad. In fact, narcissism is a trait, not a diagnosis, Malkin says; it’s a drive to feel special. And it exists on a spectrum, unhealthy mainly at the extremes. Read More.

Smart Advice For When You Disagree Over What’s Really Risky For Your Kid

Fatherly, 03-Sep-2015

If you're the risk-taking parent, Dr. Malkin says, "The first question should always be, 'What is it that has you worried? I love you and don't want you to be scared about what happens to our child, so can you tell me what you picture might happen?' You want your partner to really spell it out." Read More.

Now You See It, Now You Don’t: The Many Faces of Narcissism

Psychology Today, 02-Sep-2015

This post takes its cue from, and is in fact a review of, Dr. Craig Malkin’s Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprising Good—About Feeling Special (2015). In shedding new light on the various paradoxes of narcissism, this excellent and much needed “re-introduction” to one of the most compelling psychological subjects takes optimal advantage of up-to-date clinical and academic research. Read More.

Craig Malkin writes that some narcissism is healthy

Belmont, 24-Aug-2015

The classic definition of the word "narcissism" is a normal, pervasive human tendency -- the drive to feel special, pathological in the extreme, according to local author Craig Malkin. A Harvard Medical School-affiliated psychologist with more than two decades of clinical experience, Malkin redefines narcissism and shows why feeling special isn’t necessarily such a bad thing after all in his recently published first book, “Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad -- and Surprising Good -- About Feeling Special.” Read More.

Book Review: Rethinking Narcissism

PsychCentral, 20-Aug-2015

Among all the books that have been published on the topic in the past 10 years, Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special stands out as a definite must-read. Read More.

A Psychologist's Open Letter to U.S. Voters

The Huffington Post, 20-Aug-2015

As a narcissism expert, I'm not especially worried that narcissists might make it to the White House. According to research, they've always been there. And that shouldn't scare us anyway, because just to be clear: narcissist is not a diagnosis. It never has been. Read More.

Why some people stay with their partners even after abuse

Bryan County News, 19-Aug-2015

“People wind up blaming themselves for the abusive behavior of their partners,” Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist at Harvard Medical School, told Time magazine last year. “They convince themselves if they approach the person differently, maybe they won’t be abused.” Read More.

Rethinking narcissism: Feeling extra-special may not be so bad after all

Chicago Tribune, 19-Aug-2015

Many people think of narcissism as a poor personality trait and narcissists as people we should try to avoid. Sure, there's some truth to this, but moderate doses of narcissism are not only good, but also necessary, for our self-esteem, relationships and health, says clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, author of the new book, "Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad — and Surprising Good — About Feeling Special" (Harper Wave). Malkin, an instructor at Harvard Medical School, explains how narcissism, the drive to feel special, falls on a spectrum — and having either too little or too much of it can be unhealthy. Read More.*Additional publications in the Gulf Times, Press of Atlantic City, Philly.com, AJC, Republican American, Wcfcourier.com, Newsday, Monterey County Herald, Marin Independent Journal and Fredericksburg.com.

What to Do When a Woman Doesn't Like You

Men's Health, 18-Aug-2015

There are few things in this world as terrifying as asking a woman out on a date.If you claim otherwise, you’re either seriously deluded or a lying asshole. Asking a woman “want to go out sometime?” means putting your ego on the line. You’re inviting rejection on the most personal level. Read More.

How To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Family Members

Huffington Post, OWN, 18-Aug-2015

It's one thing to cross paths with a narcissist every once in a while, but when the self-centered offender is actually a loved one, it can make you dread every family function or want to avoid those gatherings altogether. There is, however, a better way to cope. Read More.

Am I Married to a Narcissist?

About.com Relationships, 13-Aug-2015

"Narcissism" is a term people frequently throw around, but the way they use it is often ambiguous or simply wrong. The word most definitely conjures up a negative image. However, everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and complete arrogance. Read More.

How to use narcissism to your advantage

The Independent, 12-Aug-2015

The drive to feel special can be good for us, as you can feel exceptional without becoming obnoxious. Some people consider themselves extremely special, but they don’t manipulate or beat others down - they just brighten the room. And they're likely to have longer relationships, too. Read More.

The Independent "fascinating book"

The Independent, 08-Aug-2015

You don't have to be a Harvard psychologist like Dr Malkin to work out that narcissism in the prevailing condition of our age. The question is how we adapt to the living world of preening peacocks. Malkin's big idea is "the narcissism spectrum' on which we all exist, with one being self-effacing victims and 10 being those psychopaths we all know and hate. This fascinating book includes a test to find out how you score, with tips on how to shift offenders to the healthy centre ground. Beware: some cases are incurable. "If you see signs of dangerous narcissism" concludes Malkin, "your best bet, frankly is to run."

Are You an Introvert — Or Are You Maybe an Undercover Narcissist?

New York Magazine - Science of Us, 06-Aug-2015

Something introverts really like to do, it seems, is read and talk about their own introversion. A commenter on a recent Science of Us post on the four kinds of introversion summed matters up quite nicely: "Gosh, introverts are just so FASCINATING! — Introverts." Read More.

Putting fans in the spotlight

The Boston Globe, 05-Aug-2015

In this time of personal branding, are the fan photos just a bit of selfie-ish fun or a sign we’re approaching peak narcissism?That depends on how they’re used, said Craig Malkin, an instructor in psychology at Harvard Medical School, and the author of “Rethinking Narcissism.” Read More.

The Key to Understanding Bad Boys: They’re Narcissists

Em & Lo, 02-Aug-2015

Bad boys — and bad girls — are sexy, alluring, intense, and challenging. They draw you in, and then inevitably push you away. Trying to earn their love and approval can become addictive. But it’s a losing game. Because, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, they’re often unhealthy narcissists who, by definition, can’t — or at least won’t — ever take the focus off themselves. Read More.

Why being in love with yourself is good for you

Daily Mail, 31-Jul-2015

This is a gripping and sometimes terrifying book that will make you look anew at your spouse, your parents, your children, your friends, your enemies, your fellow workers and - perhaps most pertinently - your reflection in the mirror.
And if your reflection pleases you far more than any of the others, you probably won't like what you read. Read More.

5 Ways To Spot The Hidden Narcissist In Your Life

Huffington Post, OWN, 28-Jul-2015

Some narcissists are easy to spot from miles away, but they're not all so bold and obvious. In fact, it's the more subtle narcissists that can be especially toxic -- and you may even have one in your life right now without realizing it. Read More.

Me: The Narcissist Test

The Sunday Times, 26-Jul-2015

Narcissists. They’re everywhere. Thanks to the selfie generation, society has finally disappeared up its own Instagram feed — hasn’t it? Not according to Dr Craig Malkin, a psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School, whose new book, The Narcissist Test, suggests that we’ve got it all wrong and narcissism can actually be good for us. Read More.

The Key to Spotting Hidden Narcissists

The Huffington Post, 26-Jul-2015

Recently, I sat down with the people at OWN studios to discuss how to spot narcissists. We had so much to say it resulted in a three part series. Below is part one.I wasn't interested in rehashing all the familiar traits -- boasting, manipulation, unabashed arrogance -- because most people, even those narcissistic enough to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, won't strut about insulting you at the start of a relationship. If they did, no one would fall in love with them. Read More.

Rethinking Narcissism: Self-Pride Can Be Healthy

Booktrib, 23-Jul-2015

These days, you’re a “narcissist” if you allude to any personal achievement, or if you name-dropped at a party, or even if you simply showed up wearing nicer clothes. But could there be health aspects to narcissism. Read More.

Why It's Hard to Leave Narcissists

The Huffington Post, 21-Jul-2015

Recently, I wrote an article about the dangers of trivializing "narcissist" and reducing the label to an empty pejorative. While I addressed the reality that there are some dangerous people in the world, many of them extremely narcissistic, I also pointed out that narcissism isn't always bad for us. That led to mixed reactions. Read More.

It’s OK to be a little narcissistic

New York Post, 19-Jul-2015

Narcissism — the drive to feel special — can be healthy or unhealthy, depending on how much we cling to our need to stand out from the rest of the 7 billion people on the planet. Read More.

15 signs you're a narcissist

msn, 17-Jul-2015

You're more likely to find a narcissist in the executive suite than on the street, research suggests. To help you figure out if you're a narcissist, msn combed through the psychology literature looking for patterns of narcissistic behavior. Read More.

Are YOU a narcissist?

Daily Mail, 17-Jul-2015

Narcissism has always existed, but in the 21st century, the number of people with the trait have swollen immeasurably. Dr Malkin cautions that it's ok to have a degree of narcissistic tendencies. Read More.

Narcissism Redefined

Collins, 16-Jul-2015

Is it any wonder that the current dictionary definition of narcissism reflects our suspicion that we should avoid it at all costs? Who would feel good about becoming completely self-obsessed or overly fond of—um—their endowments? And, indeed, some of the most famous people in history have warned against the dangers of narcissism. Read More.

Some narcissists really are wonderful

Times Live, 16-Jul-2015

Narcissists are an unpopular bunch, typically associated with the reality-TV egomaniacs or pouting selfie-fanatics. But we shouldn't be too quick to decry self-adoration, said a Harvard psychologist, because a little bit of grandiosity can be a very good thing. Read More.

Dr. Laurie Betito interviews Dr. Craig Malkin on the "Passion" show

CJAD 800fm, 16-Jul-2015

Dr. Laurie Betito interviews Dr. Craig Malkin on "Rethinking Narcissism" - could you be with living with a narcissist? Discussions unfold into how to spot the more classic signs of narcissism. Listen Now.

The narcissist test: Are you too self-obsessed?

The Telegraph, 15-Jul-2015

Narcissists are an unpopular bunch, typically associated with the brash egomaniacs on reality TV or pouting selfie-fanatics. But we shouldn’t be too quick to flinch from self-adoration, says a Harvard psychologist, because a little bit of grandiosity can be a very good thing. Read More.

Can Abuse Be Invisible?

With horrifying allegations surrounding Rachel Dolezal's family, the subjects of physical and sexual abuse have been making headlines once again. If you've followed my work, you know I've worked hard to educate people about the dynamics of abuse. But there's an aspect of it that gets far less attention than it should -- even within survivor communities. Read More.

The Narcissism Test -- What's Your Score?

The Huffington Post, 13-Jul-2015

Narcissism is hot. Which should make narcissists very happy.But it's also widely -- and wildly -- misunderstood, due in large part to widespread caricatures of narcissists, who are invariably depicted as vain, primping braggarts.The problem is that many narcissists, particularly the more introverted ones, who pride themselves not on looks, but on being sensitive and misunderstood, couldn't give a fig about fame or money. Read More.

Self Magazine's Q and A With An Expert

Self Magazine, 03-Jul-2015

Expert Q and A column features Dr. Craig Malkin on the upsides of self-admiration.

What makes someone create a 'false self'?

The Telegraph, 16-Jun-2015

In this context, Dolezal - whose interest in African-American culture began in earnest, when her parents adopted four black siblings - may merely be one of the most spectacular examples of an increasingly modern phenomenon. Read More.

Why Parental Praise Doesn't Create Narcissists -- and What Does

The Huffington Post, 27-May-2015

It came as shocking, shocking! news recently that overpraising kids -- making them feel special -- will turn them into entitled little brats and raging narcissists. Well, that announcement hardly counts as groundbreaking. It's a warning parents have heard as far back as spare the rod, spoil the child. Read More.

7 science-backed signs you work for a narcissist

Business Insider, 27-Apr-2015

The "very fact of having a feeling in the presence of another person suggests you can be touched emotionally by friends, family, partners, and even the occasional tragedy or failure. Read More.

Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad—and Surprising Good—About Feeling Special

Publishers Weekly, 20-Apr-2015

“...this is, importantly, a book that will have readers rethinking themselves and, paradoxically, those around them.”

3 Big Obstacles to Change and How to Overcome Them

Psychology Today, 09-Apr-2015

So powerful is the tug of the old self that self-loathing people often go out of their way to avoid supportive friends or partners; they’ll even dodge caring spouses in favor of people who consistently put them down. They don’t enjoy being hurt. They just don’t know how to be close to someone who’s nice. Read More.

Can You Spot A Narcissist? It's Not As Easy As You Think, Study Finds

Forbes, 06-Apr-2015

Spotting a narcissist in a crowd might be a fun pastime, but if you’re a researcher or a hiring manager, your job may actually depend on it. Although there’s been a lot of research – and public interest – in the narcissistic personality, it’s been less clear how narcissists may actually differ from the average Joe conversationally. Read More.

9 Signs You're In Love With A Narcissist

The Huffington Post, 30-Mar-2015

Narcissists are appealing for good reason: they're charming, compelling and don't hold back on the compliments, but how do you know if you're in love with one? Read More.

11 Reasons Women Look Gorgeous without Makeup

Men's Health, 24-Mar-2015

If she proudly sports a bare face, it’s one sign that she’s comfortable with herself. And research shows that confidence can actually make a woman seem sexier. Read More.

10 Things You Should Know About Dealing With a Narcissist

Cosmopolitan, 16-Mar-2015

NIt can be incredibly challenging to deal with a narcissist, Cosmopolitan.com has rounded up some expert wisdom to help get you through any future encounters with your own sanity intact. Read More.

RETHINKING NARCISSISM

Kirkus, 11-Mar-2015

It’s good to feel good about yourself. Clinical psychologist Malkin (Psychology/Harvard Medical School), contributor to popular magazines, the Huffington Post, NPR and Fox News, draws on decades of experience in his debut self-help book, focused on the problem of narcissism. Read More.

5 Ways Kids Can Save Your Relationship

The Huffington Post, 10-Mar-2015

Rather than resigning yourself to the dissatisfaction predicted in the longitudinal studies, you could, like some I've people seen over the years, decide to embrace children as an opportunity for self-growth. Read More.

Recovering Resilience: 7 Methods For Becoming Mentally Stronger

Forbes, 02-Mar-2015

For people who aren’t so good at coping with stressors, it may be that they’ve never been particularly good at it—or it could be that they were once good, but the losses and blows of life have worn away their resilience over time. Read More.

Is This the Key to an Exciting Life? New Research

The Huffington Post, 13-Feb-2015

Inspired by the results of Ainsworth's research, subsequent researchers branched out to study adults and discovered much the same thing. People who feel more securely attached (comfortable being close to and depending on someone) aren't just happier, but more likely to seek thrills like rock climbing and parachute jumping and throw themselves into new situations and challenges, like meeting strangers and traveling overseas. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2014

OVERBLOWN FACEBOOK PERSONAS CAN LEAVE FRIENDS DEFLATED

The Boston Globe, 01-Sep-2014

Facebook and other social media allow users to present a curated self, showing friends or the public a happier or more accomplished version of a person. Most of the time it is trivial. But in some cases, the gap between reality and the Facebook version can be striking, and troubling. Read More.

WHY WOMEN STAY: THE PARADOX OF ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Time, 01-Sep-2014

After a video was released showing Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice punching his then-fiancée, now-wife Janay Palmer so hard that he knocked her unconscious, victims of domestic abuse took to Twitter to explain why Palmer still decided to become Mrs. Rice after the incident. Read More.

HOLLYWOOD'S RELATIONSHIP MYTHS CAN WREAK HAVOC ON REAL-LIFE ROMANCE

Chicago Tribune, 01-Aug-2014

The plots of romance movies are fairly predictable. Two romantically challenged characters will meet, realize they're destined to be together, encounter a series of problems meant to separate them, but by the end they'll be wrapped in each others' arms. Cue the credits. Read More.

LOVE AND PREGNANCY: CAN A BABY SAVE YOUR STRUGGLING RELATIONSHIP?

Parents, 02-Jun-2014

In some rare cases (i.e. Hollywood movies that usually don't reflect reality), bringing a baby into the world can bring a couple closer together. Having a baby can create a bond that encourages mature personal growth and strengthens a couple's commitment to each other -- but that doesn't happen overnight, and more often, it doesn't happen at all. Read More.

7 STRATEGIES FOR DEALING WITH THE NARCISSIST YOU LOVE

The Huffington Post, 23-Apr-2014

Late last year, I wrote a piece where I shared a perspective, based on growing research, that narcissism isn't simply a stubborn trait, but a style of coping. The seeds of that idea turned into a book, scheduled for release in spring next year. Since I promised a follow up, I'm taking a brief break from the larger project to deliver on my promise. Here's a glimpse at what's to come. If you think your partner's a narcissist, you might want to try these seven strategies. Read More.

WHEN DEPRESSION HURTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP: HOW TO REGAIN INTIMACY AND RECONNECT WITH YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOU'RE DEPRESSED (NEW HARBINGER)

Foreword by Dr. Craig Malkin, 03-Mar-2014

When you are feeling depressed, having a loving, supportive relationship with your partner can help you in your path towards healing and creating a happier life. But often depression interferes with your relationship, distancing you from your partner during your time of need. Get the book.

30 MOST PROMINENT PSYCHOLOGISTS ON TWITTER

Best Psychology Degrees, 24-Feb-2014

WIn view of this, we’ve put together a list of the 30 most prominent psychologists on the popular micro-blogging site – so anyone reading can follow the individuals’ day-to-day lives while also discovering what news and articles they find interesting. Some of the psychologists in this roundup are famous for particular research, others run their own clinics, and yet others are frequently cited in the media as the go-to experts in their fields. Regardless of which area of psychology is of interest, these 30 leading psychologists on Twitter are sure to fascinate. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2013

HOW TO HELP AN EMOTIONALLY NEEDY SISTER

Our Everyday Life, 06-Dec-2013

Neediness stems from fear, believes clinical psychologist Craig Malkin, because needy people are scared by their needs for connection and the chance that those needs won't be met. Read More.

WHAT'S HER EX FACTOR

Men's Health, 02-Dec-2013

It's a cardinal rule of dating: don't talk about each other's exes. The pain, the unwelcome memories - some of them still fresh, perhaps. But you can thank her exes for at least one thing: leading her to you. Read More.

HOW TO CONFRONT MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT BEING JEALOUS

Our Everyday Life, 16-Oct-2013

Learn to express your jealous feelings in an appropriate way, which can actually make your relationship stronger. Read More.

CAN NARCISSISTS CHANGE?

The Huffington Post, 10-Sep-2013

At the end of May 2013, I wrote an article titled 5 Early Warning Signs You're With A Narcissist. It sparked a number of rich conversations through comments, emails, facebook, and twitter. Not surprisingly, the vast majority of reactions came from people who feared they were currently in a relationship with a narcissist. Read More.

LYING ABOUT YOUR AGE IN LA IS MORE COMMON THAN YOU MAY THINK

Los Angeles Times, 06-Sep-2013

Everyone in L.A. lies about his or her age, says the author of the book "Career Comeback — Repackage Yourself to Get the Job You Want.""This is the most youth-oriented city on the planet, where you're only as old as your cosmetic dermatologist makes you look," says Lisa Johnson Mandell (no relation to the writer of this story). "This might be the only city where people use professionally Photo Shopped head shots not just for acting, but on their LinkedIn profiles, Facebook pages, and of course on their online dating profiles."Is it worth it? Read More.

5 EARLY WARNING SIGNS YOU'RE WITH A NARCISSIST

The Huffington Post, 30-May-2013

At the beginning of April this year, I was tapped by the Huffington Post Live team for a discussion on narcissism. I happily agreed to appear, for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that narcissism happens to be one of my favorite subjects. Early in my training, I had the pleasure of working with one of the foremost authorities on narcissism in our field, and in part because of that experience, I went on to work with quite a few clients who'd been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. Read More.

MENDING CHALLENGING RELATIONSHIPS

Psychology Today, 07-May-2013

What are some simple strategies to overcome conflict and mend challenging relationships of any sort? Ask the other person what it is that they would changed in order for the situation to feel better. When you do that, it helps them feel as if you're taking their perspective seriously. By at least repeating back to them what they just said, you show that you're trying to understand. Read More.

SUCCESS TIPS FOR FIRST TIME DATERS

Happen Magazine, 07-May-2013

Alfred and Silvia Cavagnaro met each other on Match.com, but Alfred says that he botched everything on their first date. “I arrived late,” says Alfred. “Silvia declined an alcoholic drink, but I said that I needed a drink — and then pulled out my hidden bottle of tequila. Booze was not a plus in her mind, and she was thinking to herself, 'Nice guy, but I'm not going down that road again.' Then I discussed all my exes. Who knows what else I said? Read More.

HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST

The Huffington Post, 04-Apr-2013

WHY DO PEOPLE STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS?

The Huffington Post, 01-Mar-2013

During one of my breaks yesterday, I received an email from a colleague. The subject: "Another Know Nothing." Included was a link to the evolving story about New Hampshire state legislator Mark Warden's recent comments. I scanned down the page, and just below the header, next to Warden's innocently beaming face, I found his offending remarks: "Some people could make the argument that a lot of people like being in abusive relationships. Read More.

CUPID’S ADVICE FOR LOVELORN HARD TO COME BY ON VALENTINE’S DAY

The Washington Times, 13-Feb-2013

Lots of people think they know something about manoeuvring the land mines of love. But few of them try to patent their wisdom. So the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office had a lot to consider a few years ago when it received a nine-page instruction manual titled “Interpersonal Pursuit Method” that teaches men how to attract a woman, build her trust and ultimately seduce her. Read More.

CAN ACTING IN LOVE HELP YOU STAY IN LOVE?

The Huffington Post, 11-Jan-2013

In the same way that assuming a "power pose" builds our confidence, intentionally engaging in loving, passionate behaviors appears to spark romantic excitement. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2012

CAN CYBORGS FALL IN LOVE?

The Huffington Post, 28-Dec-2012

In the process of crafting our second self, we can only retain our humanity -- and our capacity to love -- if we use technology in a way that doesn't leave us anemic and enervated. Read More.

IS EMPATHY SEXY?

The Huffington Post, 10-Dec-2012

The researchers suspected that anxiously and securely attached people, who seek out and enjoy intimacy, would be turned on by empathy, while avoidantly attached people, who get a little squeamish about closeness, would be turned off by a caring listener. Read More.

HOW TO OVERCOME NEEDINESS

The Huffington Post, 15-Nov-2012

When we're gripped by the terror of neediness, we feel completely out of control. When we bear witness to it, we feel confused and overwhelmed, wondering if any amount of reassurance will ever be enough. How can we understand these moments? More importantly, how can the needy find relief? Read More.

WIN HER BACK: REBOUND FROM ANY RELATIONSHIP MISTAKE

Men's Health, 12-Oct-2012

You can recover from botched dates, fumbled trysts, and sunken relationships. In fact, do it right and she'll love you twice as much the second time around. Read More.

HOW TECHNOLOGY MAKES US AFRAID OF INTIMACY

The Huffington Post, 24-Sep-2012

One of my clients, Lisa, 25, a socially anxious software engineer, hadn't been to a party, let alone on a date, in months. She was far too busy racking up points on a new online multiplayer game. "I'm lonely most of the time, she confessed "but when I get lost in the game, I forget all about how terrible I feel. Read More.

BOYFRIENDS AND BOY FRIENDS: HOW TO KEEP BOTH

Women's Health, 01-Aug-2012

For most men, food is the language of love. However, a delicious meal could tear you and your guy apart just as easily as it can bring you together-that is, if you're dining with another dude. Read More.

IS SHE THE ONE? NINE QUESTIONS YOU MUST ASK HER

Men's Health, 20-Jun-2012

Don't let her hotness blind you from facing facts if she's a hot mess. "In context, ask her how she's made important life decisions, such as accepting a job or making a move," says psychologist Craig Malkin, Ph.D. "You're looking for signs of a reckless, flaky approach to life." Read More.

SIN AND SEX, POLITICS AND RELIGION

Providence Journal, Newsday, Scrippnews, Associated Press, 20-Jun-2012

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist and psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School, points out that after an abortion some women with trauma histories have severe stress reactions. He says, "The American Psychological Association's position, based on research evidence, is that abortions do not harm women's mental health." Read More.

BEING CONFIDENT WILL GET YOU MORE DATES THAN BEING ATTRACTIVE WILL, SAYS SCIENCE

The San Francisco Chronicle, 17-Jan-2012

The kind of confidence we’re talking about really comes down to feeling good about your appearance and attractiveness,” says Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a Harvard psychologist. “Men and women both prefer a confident date, for a number of reasons.” For one, confident folks are natural salespeople.

IN THE PRESS | 2011

THE GREAT STALL: EXPERT WAYS TO GET YOUR REAR IN GEAR

Psychology Today, 01-Nov-2011

I call it the library cure: Create a dedicated work space where all you can do if you don’t focus on the task is twiddle your thumbs. Use it daily. Over time, your brain will begin to associate work with the space. Read More.

BOND BOOSTERS: TIPS TO HELP BRING BACK ROMANCE

Psychology Today, 01-Jun-2011

Exercising regularly combats stress and improves your mood, making fights less likely, and it maintains your health and energy for a more active sex life—which comes with its own benefits. Read More.

WEE WISDOM: THE BENEFITS OF STAYING YOUNG AT HEART

Psychology Today, 01-May-2011

Children see the world with beginners' eyes. They aren't constrained by experience, so a box could just as easily be a castle or a car. I'm always trying to see things as if I've glimpsed them anew. Read More.

GUEST COMMENTARY: SPEND TIME, NOT MONEY, THIS VALENTINE'S DAY

Cambridge Chronicle, 11-Feb-2011

Singles feel pressure to be a couple. In love and haven’t tied the knot? Feb. 14 can quickly collapse into a day of wishful thinking and analysis. Many couples even compare their bond to others, wondering if it is as good as their neighbor’s love.

LOVE IS BLIND…AND NUMB?: WHY YOU CAN’T ALWAYS FEEL WHEN LOVE HURTS

Psychology Today, 06-Jan-2011

Blinded by the glow of romantic love (or the love of one’s children), we tend to miss the faults, the disappointments, the slights—minor and sometimes even major—in the people we love the most. Now it appears there may be a powerful neurological component to love-blindness. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2010

ISLE OF MAN: HUMOR IS THE FASTEST WAY TO HIS HEART, EXPERTS SAY

The Toronto Star, 26-Oct-2010

Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist who trained and taught at Harvard University and is currently writing a book about human attraction, says both genders rate humour high on their list of desirable qualities. Read More.

THE ATTITUDE THAT ATTRACTS LOVE

Women's Health, 01-Sep-2010

When you smile at someone, it may fire up a bundle of neurons in the frontal lobe of their brain, triggering happy feelings, says Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Read More.

5 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES KNOW

www.sheknows.com, 02-Jul-2010

When you’re stressed, it’s natural to look around for what might be causing the problem, says Craig Malkin, Ph.D…For couples, that means a fair — or perhaps unfair — amount of finger-pointing. “Sometimes it’s better to accept that a situation is hard, no matter what your partner does or doesn’t do—and seek his support. You can bond and even laugh over stress if you quit finding fault,” says Dr. Malkin. Read More.

STAYING IN LOVE WHEN HE’S NEVER HOME

www.LovingYou.com, 01-May-2010

According to Craig Malkin, PhD, Director YM Psychotherapy & Consultation, Inc., the most important step a frenzied mom can take is to devote less time to being angry at her absent husband and more time thinking about what will make things better. Read More.

www.LovingYou.com, 01-Mar-2010

According to clinical psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, Director of YM Psychotherapy & Consultation, Inc. and writing a book about how people control attraction, when you’re separated from your partner, it’s natural to feel jealous. However, it isn’t natural to act jealous. Read More.

WHEN BABY MAKES 3

Oregon Bend Bulletin, 12-Feb-2010

Instead of believing children doom a relationship, [Massachusetts clinical psychologist and relationship expert Craig Malkin] thinks kids may just speed up an already doomed couple toward a split.

RULES OF ATTRACTION

HealthLine.com, 01-Feb-2010

Dr. Craig Malkin, a clinical psychologist who is currently writing a book about how we control desire, noted that the power of this neurochemical cocktail can be potent. Read More.

IN THE PRESS | 2009

WILL HE CHEAT? 14 RED FLAGS YOU CAN’T IGNORE

LifeScript.com, 09-Dec-2009

If a guy is organizing his life to spend less time with his partner, it doesn’t really matter whether he has met someone,” Malkin says. “Such behavior signals a distance that’s “always a breeding ground for infidelity. Read More.

THE RULES OF LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

Marie Claire, 01-Dec-2009

Use those extra minutes to plan regular phone dates, ideally when you can both tune out everything else. “These calls need to be scheduled so you can expect and look forward to them,” says psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin. That structure will keep you present in each other’s daily lives despite the physical separation. Read More.

DATE WANTED: MUST LOVE DOGS

Happen Magazine, Match.com, 07-Jul-2009

Take a walk in any city park and you’ll see plenty of singles with their loved ones on a short leash — literally. For those who think of their dogs and cats as their furry kids, it makes sense to date only fellow pet lovers, or those who are at least willing to come second, right behind Fido or Fluffy. Read More.

ARE WE FALLING FOR THE SAME MAN AGAIN AND AGAIN? ELIMINATE DATING DÉJÀ VU

Boston Examiner, 01-Jul-2009

Years of research confirm the importance of childhood (‘early attachment’) in our romantic patterns,” said Craig Malkin, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Cambridge, MA. “So all those books about the role of childhood are right; your father’s emotional distance did influence your choice of stoic men; but your continued attraction to strong, silent types has far more to do with the present than the past.

THE LAWS OF ATTRACTION

IndianExpress.com, 21-Jun-2009

Love is a tough nut to crack. Considered the domain of poets and philosophers, science's forays into it have been fairly recent. Things started to speed up with the discovery of the 'stages of love' by Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University. She also found that love is not a mere emotion—it's a basic human drive, a system inbuilt for mate selection. Read More.

LOVE IN THE TIME OF THE RECESSION

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, 14-Jun-2009

No need to drop out of the dating scene if you lose your job. Yes, you can pretty much count on being asked, “So, what do you do?” but being between jobs doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Here are some tips from Craig Malkin. Read More.

SEX AFTER BABY: HOW TO GET YOUR GROOVE BACK

LifeScript.com, 09-Jun-2009

After you’ve just had a baby, beds are more for sleeping than romping. But even if you’re too tired to think about sex, your hubby probably isn’t. So how can you get your groove back? Find out now. Plus, does your marriage need extra spice? Take our quiz and find out… Read More.

HOW TO REPATTERN OUR BEHAVIOR TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIPS

VoiceAmerica Talk Radio, 16-Mar-2009

Patricia welcomes Craig Malkin, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist who taught and trained at Harvard. Dr. Malkin’s research on the role of relationships in psychological growth in the classroom has been published in peer reviewed journals. He practices full time and serves as president and director of his own successful therapy and consulting company, YM Psychotherapy and Consultation Inc. He will discuss why we choose and stay in relationships that do not work and how we can change our patterns to find happy and fulfilling relationships. Read More.

HOW TO INDULGE EACH OTHERS’ HOBBIES

Happen Magazine, Match.com, 02-Mar-2009

One of the wondrous, ineffable joys of dating is learning all about your partner’s quirky hobby — whether it’s spending hours hunched over 5,000-piece jigsaw puzzles, rifling through Dumpsters for rare bottle caps, or dressing up like Capt. Janeway at biweekly Star Trek: Voyager get-togethers. Such hobbies bear the indelible stamp of their owner’s personality and were likely forged during childhood or inherited from eccentric aunts. Read More.

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Welcome friends and fans. Thank you for following my work and sharing your feedback. I deeply appreciate the thoughtfulness and gratitude so many of you have conveyed in your comments and messages. I’ve been moved not only by the pain and power of your stories, but the courage you’ve shown in sharing them. I wish I could reply to each of you, at length, but due to the volume of correspondence I receive, I’m no longer able to. But please know that I read all your questions and comments and often address the issues they raise in my articles. One other disclaimer: HIPPA law restricts psychologists from providing therapeutic advice or conducting sensitive conversations through social media or email. I apologize for any inconvenience this might cause. If you’d like to set up a confidential face-to-face, skype, or phone consultation, please call my office: 617-491-1660. You can find fees here. I‘m grateful your interest and support! - Craig Malkin.

THIS IS THE WAY TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS FROM PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSISM

Monday, April 02, 2018

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THE LINK BETWEEN NARCISSISM AND DRUG ADDICTION

Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Here's the sixth in this series of unseen video snippets, where I share some bitesize pieces of information on the subject of narcissism. The paperback version of my critically acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism, with updated material and resources was just released on July 5th, so if this subject interests you, you can buy the book here!

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The Spectrum: From Echoism to Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Here's the fifth in this series of unseen video snippets, where I share some bitesize pieces of information on the subject of narcissism. The paperback version of my critically acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism, with updated material and resources was just released on July 5th, so if this subject interests you, you can buy the book here!

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Narcissism In Relationships

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Here's the fourth in this series of unseen video snippets, where I share some bitesize pieces of information on the subject of narcissism. The paperback version of my critically acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism, with updated material and resources, was just released on July 5th, so if this subject interests you, subscribe below to receive updates!

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Join Me For 'Real Narcissists' - The Rethinking Narcissism Paperback Online Launch Event!

Wednesday, July 06, 2016

We've kicked off! As of yesterday, now everywhere books are sold--in stores and online--you can get your copy of Rethinking Narcissism in paperback! I want to thank you - my family, friends, colleagues, readers and community for getting the book launch off to an awesome start.

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Narcissism Example Couples Therapy

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Here's the third in this series of unseen video snippets, where I share some bitesize pieces of information on the subject of narcissism. The paperback version of my critically acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism, with updated material and resources, is out on July 5th, so if this subject interests you subscribe below to receive updates as we countdown to the release!

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7 Hours Of CEC Credit For Rethinking Narcissism

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

As you may be aware this is the final month for mental health professionals to obtain their licensing hours through continuing education credits. Upon completion of the CE test based on my internationally acclaimed book, Rethinking Narcissism you’ll learn how to:

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Does Narcissism Appear In Neuroimaging?

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Here's the second in this series of unseen video snippets, where I share some bitesize pieces of information on the subject of narcissism. The paperback version of my critically acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism is out on July 5th, so if this subject interests you subscribe below to receive updates as we countdown to the release!

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What's The Basic Definition Of Narcissism?

Thursday, June 09, 2016

I'm excited to release the first in this series of unseen video snippets, where I share some bitesize pieces of information on the subject of narcissism. The paperback version of my critically acclaimed book Rethinking Narcissism is out on July 5th, so if this subject interests you subscribe below to receive updates as we countdown to the release!

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Proof, Once and for All, That Narcissists Are Deeply Insecure

Monday, February 01, 2016

There’s a long standing belief, reinforced by books like The Narcissism Epidemic, that narcissists actually feel great about themselves, despite everyone’s suspicion—dating back to age old wisdom about schoolyard bullies—that no one who has to push people down to feel bigger than everyone else on the planet could possibly possess anything even approaching healthy self-regard.

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Why do We Keep Falling For Narcissists?

Friday, December 11, 2015

People often ask me what’s new about Rethinking Narcissism.And the answer is—well, quite a lot: a new definition of narcissism (that explains why there are so many “types” of narcissists), the real reason millenials got such a bad rap, the secret to dealing with narcissistic coworkers, friends, and loved ones—the list goes on. But one of the ideas that resonates most for people who read my work is the concept of echoism—and how it draws us, unwittingly, into relationships with extremely narcissistic friends and partners.

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Rethinking Narcissism is on Sale through 11/30!

Saturday, November 28, 2015

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The Biggest Online Narcissism Event Of The Year 2015!

Saturday, October 31, 2015

I'm so excited to have this opportunity to officially announce the launch of my brand new podcast I’m hosting called, The Dr. Craig Malkin Show, and to celebrate the launch I have a very special event planned for you that I think you're going to love, where I’ll be giving away 5 copies of my book, plus you could win a personal consultation with me, valued at $400!

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Does Over Praise Really Cause Narcissism In Children?

Thursday, October 08, 2015

Most of us want to raise caring and self-confident children, but does telling your children they're special too often and pouring on the praise mean you'll raise a narcissistic brat?

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The Difference Between Echoism And Healthy Introversion

Thursday, October 01, 2015

At a recent book signing I responded to an excellent question, "What's The Difference Between Echoism And Healthy Introversion?"

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Realizing My Mother Was A Narcissist

Thursday, September 17, 2015

It's extraordinarily helpful for me to draw on personal experience in my work with clients. It adds a depth of emotion and understanding that's hard to reach when I don't bring some of myself into the room. That's one of the reasons I openly talk about my relationship with my mother inside my book Rethinking Narcissism. She introduced me to the topic in the most immediate and vital way possible. And I couldn't have imagined introducing you, the reader, to narcissism, without describing the very struggles that brought me to the topic in the first place. I thought I'd share some of the background from the introduction of my book. I'd love to hear from you in the comments if you've had anyone in your life you've suspected of being a narcissist, and want to share how that's affected you.

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Oprah's 12 Most Frequently Asked Questions on Narcissism

Thursday, September 03, 2015

A Guide For Voters In The Elections

Thursday, August 27, 2015

Here in America, we're a little over a year away from casting our votes for the next President of the United States. Campaigns are underway to help convince the public who they should vote for. Which potential leaders and their actions deserve your praise? My recent article on the Huffington post (that's currently had almost 5,000 likes/shares) indicates that we all want to make smart, informed decisions about the answer to that question.

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Relationships, Passion, Sex and Narcissism...

Thursday, August 20, 2015

I was delighted to be interviewed recently on "Passion" with Laurie Betito on my new book, Rethinking Narcissism. In this interview we talk relationships, social media and living with Narcissism - listen to the audio or read the transcript! I'd love to read your comments!

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Not All Narcissists Are Equal

Thursday, August 13, 2015

You saw it here first, extroverted and introverted narcissism, and a recent article inside NYMag.com highlights not just my thoughts on the matter, but what the research is telling us... "It's just a mess with all these different terms. At the common core, these are people who are addicted to feeling special. It's just that there are a lot of ways to do it."

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Please Tell Me If You See My Kids Doing This

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Not Your Average Mom recently wrote a popular post urging parents to tell her when her kids are “assholes”—especially when they’re bullies.And I couldn’t agree more. But I’m not sure most of us have trouble doing that.

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The Real Problem with Rachel Dolezal

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Last week, I was interviewed by The Telegraph about Rachel Dolezal. I’ll repeat here what I said then: No one creates a false self, narcissistic or otherwise, if they feel securely loved.

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Can Abuse be Invisible?

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Recently, I was interviewed by Elle magazine for a piece on emotional abuse—an important and all too often neglected topic. One reason it’s so often overlooked is that there are no laws against name calling, putdowns, and mind games, though there should be. Broken legs mend far more easily than broken selves. But the fact that legislation ignores the danger of emotional abuse seems to mirror the way our society, in general, appears to look the other way.

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#SoWe: How To Use Social Media to Improve Our Lives

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Is social media use good or bad for us?Research is mixed when it comes to answering that question, with some studies claiming that social networking can expand and enhance our relationships and others coming to more troubling conclusions.

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One Simple Question that Can Help You Feel Better

Friday, May 01, 2015

Recently, my colleagues, Shannon Kolakowski, PsyD, Heidi Reeder, PhD, and Ben Michaelis, PhD, and I were interviewed for Forbes, in an article called Recovering Resilience: 7 Methods For Becoming Mentally Stronger. It’s a topic near and dear to my heart, but it’s also one that’s happily become central to discussions of mental health and wellbeing.

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Love is Blind...and Numb? Why You Can't Always Feel When Love Hurts

Friday, January 07, 2011

from my article on Psychology Today's Blog (Read the original Psychology Today article here)

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Dr. Craig Malkin takes seriously the privacy of those that visit our web site. We have established this Privacy Policy to communicate what information we collect and how that information is used and safeguarded.

By accessing this website (www.drcraigmalkin.com), you acknowledge the terms and conditions expressed herein. We reserve the right to change this policy at our sole discretion and without notice.

What information is collected, and why?

When a user visits our website, we collect information about the visit that does not identify the user personally. We track information such as the domain from which the user is visiting and the user's browser type. We also collect specific information regarding the user's session on our website. This includes items such as the date and time of the visit and the pages viewed.

Sometimes we ask a user to voluntarily provide personally identifiable information (PII). This information generally includes, but is not limited to, name, e-mail address, postal address, and telephone number. We request this information when the user requests one of the following:

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  • To receive specific information from us such as a whitepaper or code sample

  • To sign up for a mailing list

  • To correspond with us

  • Or any other such activity that we deem necessary

Dr. Malkin does not collect any personally identifiable financial or health-related information. We do not intentionally collect information from children under the age of 13.

How is the information used?

Non-personally identifiable information (non-PII) is collected to allow us to analyze how our website is used and to improve the content and service the website provides.

Personally identifiable information is collected for analysis to improve the content of the website and the services we provide the user.

Dr. Malkin owns the collected information and will not sell, trade, or rent the information to others. We may use the information to continue contact with the user. This may include contact such as follow-up calls, e-mail correspondence, or mail correspondence to follow-up on the contact or to provide marketing information about promotions, new services, or important website changes. [[Clients Name]] may share this information with its business partners for the specific purpose of a promotion or service offering.

Are "Cookies" used on the website?

"Cookies" are small pieces of information that are placed on a web user's hard drive. We may use cookies to provide you with better service. Cookies are pieces of information that a Web site transfers to your computer's hard disk for record-keeping purposes. Cookies can make the Web more useful by storing information about your preferences for a particular site. The use of cookies is an industry standard, and many major Web sites use them to provide useful features for their customers. Cookies in and of themselves do not personally identify users, although they do identify a user's computer. Most browsers are initially set to accept cookies. If you prefer, you can set your browser to refuse cookies. However, you may not be able to take full advantage of the functionality of the site if you do so.

How is personally identifiable information safeguarded?

Dr. Malkin utilizes industry standard methods and mechanisms such as firewalls, intrusion monitoring, and passwords to protect electronic information. Multiple physical security methods such as locking devices and 24 hour premise monitoring are also employed. Finally, access to PII is limited to a small number of personnel and on a need-to-know basis.

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Based on the information a user has provided, Dr. Malkin may send e-mail correspondence to the user. Each correspondence will contain an easy means to opt out of further correspondence.

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INFORMED CONSENT FOR TELECOACHING

This Informed Consent for Telecoaching contains important information focusing on doing coaching/consulting  using the phone or the Internet. Please read this carefully, and let me know if you have any questions.  When you sign this document, it will represent an agreement between us.

 

Coaching & Psychotherapy

In addition to being a coach, I am also a licensed in MA (U.S.A.), with training and experience in diagnosing and treating emotional problems. While there are some similarities between coaching and psychotherapy, they are very different activities, and it is important that you understand the differences between them. Psychotherapy is a health care service and is usually reimbursable through health insurance policies.  This is usually not true for coaching. Both coaching and psychotherapy utilize knowledge of human behavior, motivation and behavioral change, and interactive counseling techniques. The major differences are in the goals, focus, and level of professional responsibility.  

The focus of coaching is development and implementation of strategies to reach client-identified goals of enhanced performance and personal satisfaction.  Coaching may address specific personal projects, life balance, relationships, emotional and self-states, job performance and satisfaction, or general conditions in the client’s life, business, or profession. Coaching utilizes personal strategic planning, values clarification, brainstorming, skill building, emotional regulation, relaxation techniques, pattern identification across relationships (and changing such patterns), motivational counseling, and other counseling techniques. The focus of psychotherapy is the diagnosis and treatment of mental illness. I am not licensed to provide such services outside of MA. And while coaching of the kind I provide can help people with mental health struggles, for severe mental help concerns, it must be supplemented with in person psychotherapeutic support. Remote consultations limit the depth and extent of professional responsibility in precisely this way (including the inability to provide 24/7 emergency support, which must be provided locally). 

MEETINGS

I normally conduct an evaluation that will last 4 sessions. During this time, we can both decide if I am the best person to provide the services you need in order to meet your treatment goals. Once an appointment hour is scheduled, you will be expected to be responsible for it unless you provide 48-hours advance notice of cancellation. It is important to note that insurance companies do not provide reimbursement for cancelled sessions.  If your circumstances are such that you are forced to frequently cancel your regularly scheduled appointments—even with 48-hours notice—we will have to negotiate a new way to handle the scheduling.

 

PROFESSIONAL FEES

Our Consultation fee for a 50 minute session is $620.00. In addition to weekly appointments, we charge this amount for other professional services you may need, though I will break down the hourly cost if I work periods of less than one hour. Going forward  all charges will be made to that card on the day of services. Our office runs the card in the morning to catch any problems so we don’t spend time in session updating your information. Other services include report writing, telephone conversations lasting longer than 5 minutes, consulting with other professionals with your permission, preparation of records or treatment summaries, and the time spent performing any other service you may request of me. If you become involved in legal proceedings that require my participation, you will be expected to pay for all of my professional time, including preparation and transportation costs, even if I am called to testify by another party. In general, if you have need of psychological evaluation for legal purposes, our policy is to refer you to an expert in legal-forensic evaluation processes.


Benefits and Risks of Telecoaching 

Telecoaching refers to providing coaching/consulting services remotely using telecommunications technologies, such as video conferencing or telephone.  One of the benefits of telecoaching  is that the client and clinician can engage in services without being in the same physical location. This can be helpful in ensuring continuity of care if the client or clinician moves to a different location, takes an extended vacation, or is otherwise unable to continue to meet in person. It is also more convenient and takes less time. Telecoaching , however, requires technical competence on both our parts to be helpful.  Although there are benefits of telecoaching , there are some differences between in-person coaching/consulting  and telecoaching , as well as some risks.  For example:

  • Risks to confidentiality.  Because telecoaching sessions take place outside of the consultant ’s private office, there is potential for other people to overhear sessions if you are not in a private place during the session. On my end I will take reasonable steps to ensure your privacy. But it is important for you to make sure you find a private place for our session where you will not be interrupted.  It is also important for you to protect the privacy of our session on your cell phone or other device.   You should participate in consulting  only while in a room or area where other people are not present and cannot overhear the conversation.

  • Issues related to technology.  There are many ways that technology issues might impact telecoaching .  For example, technology may stop working during a session, other people might be able to get access to our private conversation, or stored data could be accessed by unauthorized people or companies.

  • Crisis management and intervention.  Usually, I will not engage in telecoaching with clients who are currently in a crisis situation requiring high levels of support and intervention.  Before engaging in telecoaching , we will develop an emergency response plan to address potential crisis situations that may arise during the course of our telecoaching  work.

  • Efficacy. Some consultants believe that something is lost by not being in the same room. For example, there is debate about a consultant ’s ability to fully understand non-verbal information when working remotely.

Electronic Communications

We will decide together which kind of telecoaching service to use.  You may have to have certain computer or cell phone systems to use telecoaching services. You are solely responsible for any cost to you to obtain any necessary equipment, accessories, or software to take part in telecoaching .

For communication between sessions, I only encrypted messaging with your permission and only for administrative purposes unless we have made another agreement. My system is self-scheduling. You may cancel it yourself up to 48 hours from the time of the appointment. Please be aware that if you message me to cancel instead of doing it yourself, I may not be available to receive the message in time and I’ll have to charge for the missed hour. You should be aware that I cannot guarantee the confidentiality of any information communicated by email or text. Therefore, I will not discuss any clinical information by email or text and prefer that you do not either. Also, I do not regularly check my email or texts, nor do I respond immediately, so these methods should not be used if there is an emergency.

Our work is most effective when discussions occur at your regularly scheduled sessions.  But if an urgent issue arises, you should feel free to attempt to reach me by phone. I will try to return your call within 24 hours except on weekends and holidays.  If you are unable to reach me and feel that you cannot wait for me to return your call, contact your family physician or the nearest emergency room and ask for the psychologist or psychiatrist on call.  If I will be unavailable for an extended time, I will provide you with the name of a colleague to contact in my absence if necessary.

Confidentiality

I have a legal and ethical responsibility to make my best efforts to protect all communications that are a part of our telecoaching. However, the nature of electronic communications technologies is such that I cannot guarantee that our communications will be kept confidential or that other people may not gain access to our communications. I will try to use updated encryption methods, firewalls, and back-up systems to help keep your information private, but there is a risk that our electronic communications may be compromised, unsecured, or accessed by others.  You should also take reasonable steps to ensure the security of our communications (for example, only using secure networks for telecoaching sessions and having passwords to protect the device you use for telecoaching ).  

The extent of confidentiality and the exceptions to confidentiality that I outlined in my Informed Consent still apply in telecoaching. Please let me know if you have any questions about exceptions to confidentiality.

Uses and Disclosures with Neither Consent nor Authorization

I may use or disclose PHI without your consent or authorization in the following circumstances: 

  • Child Abuse: If I, in my professional capacity, have reasonable cause to believe that a minor child is suffering physical or emotional injury resulting from abuse inflicted upon him or her which causes harm or substantial risk of harm to the child's health or welfare (including sexual abuse), or from neglect, including malnutrition, I must immediately report such condition to the Massachusetts Department of Social Services.
  • Adult and Domestic Abuse: If I have reasonable cause to believe that an elderly person (age 60 or older) is suffering from or has died as a result of abuse, I must immediately make a report to the Massachusetts Department of Elder Affairs.
  • Health Oversight: The Board of Registration of Psychologists has the power, when necessary, to subpoena relevant records should your clinician be the focus of an inquiry.
  • Judicial or Administrative Proceedings: If you are involved in a court proceeding and a request is made for information about your diagnosis and treatment and the records thereof, such information is privileged under state law and we will not release information without written authorization from you or your legally-appointed representative, or a court order. The privilege does not apply when you are being evaluated for a third party or where the evaluation is court-ordered. You will be informed in advance if this is the case.
  • Serious Threat to Health or Safety: If you communicate to me an explicit threat to kill or inflict serious bodily injury upon an identified person and you have the apparent intent and ability to carry out the threat, I must take reasonable precautions. Reasonable precautions may include warning the potential victim, notifying law enforcement, or arranging for your hospitalization. Your clinician must also do so if they know you have a history of physical violence and believe there is a clear and present danger that you will attempt to kill or inflict bodily injury upon an identified person. Furthermore, if you present a clear and present danger to yourself and refuse to accept further appropriate treatment, and your clinician has a reasonable basis to believe that you can be committed to a hospital, they must seek said commitment and may contact members of your family or other individuals if it would assist in protecting you.
  • Worker’s Compensation: If you file a workers’ compensation claim, your records relevant to that claim will not be confidential to entities such as your employer, the insurer and the Division of Worker’s Compensation.

Client’s Rights and Behavioral Healthcare Clinician’s Duties

Client’s Rights:

  • Right to Request Restrictions – You have the right to request restrictions on certain uses and disclosures of protected health information about you. However, I am not required to agree to a restriction you request. 
  • Right to Receive Confidential Communications by Alternative Means and at Alternative Locations – You have the right to request and receive confidential communications of PHI by alternative means and at alternative locations. 
  • Right to Inspect and Copy – You have the right to inspect or obtain a copy (or both) of PHI and psychotherapy notes in my behavioral/mental health and billing records used to make decisions about you for as long as the PHI is maintained in the record. Your clinician may deny your access to PHI under certain circumstances, but in some cases, you may have this decision reviewed. On your request, your clinician will discuss with you the details of the request and denial process. 
  • Right to Amend – You have the right to request an amendment of PHI for as long as the PHI is maintained in the record. I may deny your request. On your request, I will discuss with you the details of the amendment process. 
  • Right to an Accounting – You generally have the right to receive an accounting of disclosures of PHI for which you have neither provided consent nor authorization (as described in Section III of this Notice). On your request, I will discuss with you the details of the accounting process. 
  • Right to a Paper Copy – You have the right to obtain a paper copy of the notice from me upon request, even if you have agreed to receive the notice electronically.

 

Behavioral Healthcare Clinician’s Duties:

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  • I am required by law to maintain the privacy of PHI and to provide you with a notice of legal duties and privacy practices with respect to PHI.
  • I reserve the right to change the privacy policies and practices described in this notice. Unless I notify you of such changes, however, I am required to abide by the terms currently in effect. 
  • If I revise the practice’s policies and procedures, I will inform you at your next scheduled visit and/or will mail you a written notice.

Effective Date, Restrictions and Changes to Privacy Policy

This notice went into effect on April 14, 2003.

I reserve the right to change the terms of this notice and to make the new notice provisions effective for all PHI that I maintains. I will provide you with a revised notice at least one week before any change to this notice. 

Appropriateness of Telecoaching

 

From time to time, we may schedule in-person sessions to “check-in” with one another. I will let you know if I decide that telecoaching is no longer the most appropriate form of treatment for you.  We will discuss options of engaging in in-person counseling or referrals to another professional in your location who can provide appropriate services. 

Emergencies and Technology

Assessing and evaluating threats and other emergencies can be more difficult when conducting telecoaching  than in traditional in-person consulting. To address some of these difficulties, we will create an emergency plan before engaging in telecoaching services.  I will ask you to identify an emergency contact person who is near your location and who I will contact in the event of a crisis or emergency to assist in addressing the situation.  I will ask that you sign a separate authorization form allowing me to contact your emergency contact person as needed during such a crisis or emergency. 

If the session is interrupted for any reason, such as the technological connection fails, and you are having an emergency, do not call me back; instead, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Call me back after you have called or obtained emergency services. 

If the session is interrupted and you are not having an emergency, disconnect from the session and I will wait two (2) minutes and then re-contact you via the telecoaching platform on which we agreed to conduct consulting . If you do not receive a call back within two (2) minutes, then call me on the phone number I provided you . 

Fees

The same fee rates will apply for telecoaching as apply for in-person coaching/consulting . However, insurance or other managed care providers may not cover sessions that are conducted via telecommunication. If your insurance, HMO, third-party payor, or other managed care provider does not cover electronic coaching/consulting  sessions, you will be solely responsible for the entire fee of the session.  Please contact your insurance company prior to our engaging in telecoaching sessions in order to determine whether these sessions will be covered.

Records

The telecoaching sessions shall not be recorded in any way unless agreed to in writing by mutual consent.  I will maintain a record of our session in the same way I maintain records of in-person sessions in accordance with my policies.

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